Psychotherapy and my relationship with T ended after a couple of years and I am struggling with it. I have been dreaming of T quite a bit and remembering our conversations with fondness, but also realising that our relationship was kind of fake.

I have social phobia so I don't communicate with people much, and T's conversations with me were more meaningful and deep and intimate than anything else I have experienced. Unfortunately as a result I have become attached to her and now feel betrayed.

What are your experiences with this?

[BayBrony]

I'm sorry if I missed something but did you end voluntarily? Is that what you wanted?

Originally Posted by BayBrony

I'm sorry if I missed something but did you end voluntarily? Is that what you wanted?

Yes I had to end voluntarily because I felt it was a little too far for me to drive. T said I am welcome to return.

[BayBrony]

Can you explain what triggers the feeling of betrayal? Since it seems like T is just respecting your choice

Originally Posted by BayBrony

Can you explain what triggers the feeling of betrayal? Since it seems like T is just respecting your choice

She made certain things seem important at the time, and now they don't seem important because she is no longer involved.

[atisketatasket]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

She made certain things seem important at the time, and now they don't seem important because she is no longer involved.

Um...can you give an example? This is all very theoretical. What you describe doesn't sound like betrayal without more clarity, just the change in our viewpoints as time goes by.

So sorry you are having a hard time. Sometimes I feel like everything with my T is fake. It stinks. I hope things start looking up for you!

[gayleggg]

I hope as time goes by you can look at it differently since you are the one that initiated the separation. Our relationships with our therapist are complicated to say the least.

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[Tongalee]

Hopefully as time goes by the separation will become easier. I think the feeling of betrayal often comes in place of true sadness and grief. You will get through this and hopefully you have some support system in place to help you do so. Best to you.

[BudFox]

Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet

Psychotherapy and my relationship with T ended after a couple of years and I am struggling with it. I have been dreaming of T quite a bit and remembering our conversations with fondness, but also realising that our relationship was kind of fake.

I have social phobia so I don't communicate with people much, and T's conversations with me were more meaningful and deep and intimate than anything else I have experienced. Unfortunately as a result I have become attached to her and now feel betrayed.

I can relate, though my T pushed hardest for termination and then cut me off completely, so bit different and there was definite betrayal.

But in your case I do think the feeling of betrayal makes sense if the whole thing seems a bit fake in hindsight. Don't know about you, but therapy for me was a powerful drug that obscured normal clarity, and then months later I saw the weirdness and artificiality and dysfunction of it.