[ilikecats]

Do you guys ever have dreams about your T? And if you do, do you tell your T about them? How does your T react? What kind of dreams do you have?

I've had three dreams about my T, but I haven't told her about any of them. I'm not sure if I will. The first one was kinda short I think, and it was about us eating together. She cooked for me and made tofu scramble. The second dream was weird. We were Skyping, and I saw that she had an orange couch. She was having a party or something, and she had a boyfriend. She got on camera with some guy, and he looked like a teenager or something, and at first I thought that was her boyfriend, but it was actually a coworker. Then she showed me her boyfriend on the camera, and his name was Telephone and he looked like a ballerina. But he was super handsome and muscular and stuff. The third dream was that we were in her office, and she told me she was moving to another state that was far away. She said she'd never live in our state again. I was really sad and mad and upset and telling her not to leave me, and she was angry at me.

So yeah, what have your experiences with dreaming about your T been?

Edit: Also, how do you feel about having/not having dreams about your T? Are you glad you have them, or would you rather not? If you don't have them, would you want to? And what about sexual dreams? Would you want those?

I'm glad I have dreams about my T. I like it, and I'd like to have more. I'm not sure about sexual ones though. That might make me feel awkward. But at the same time I kinda want them.

[atisketatasket]

I have never dreamed of either of them. But early on, after a break of two months, I had a nightmare about No. 1's building - this was before I met No. 2. The building showed up as part of a regular nightmare I have - walking through a post-apocalyptic landscape - and I looked at the building in the dream and thought "danger, Will Robinson, danger." (Yes, my dreams contain allusions to 1960s TV series.)

I assume I was apprehensive about resuming therapy.

[Out There]

Yes , three dreams about T which I've shared with him that were quite meaningful. Someone on another thread shared their T said when people work closely together they can sometimes start tapping into each others psyche so clients need to pay attention to their dreams about their T's and T's need to pay attention to their dreams about their clients.

[LonesomeTonight]

I had a dream about my T a couple years ago, where she had me over to her house, which was this ridiculous mansion, like it had an indoor swimming pool! And she was telling me that her husband was away, so I could share the bed with her, and I was like, "Uh...I can just sleep in the guest room, that's fine!" (She's my mom's age.) I eventually told her about that, and she found it amusing.

I've had multiple dreams about my marriage counselor, for whom I've had some transference off and on. The first I had about him, before I realized that was going on, started like the morning after we'd been together, with me waking up in bed next to him and both of us naked. It felt more comforting than sexual though. And then at the next appointment with him, he was wearing a polo shirt that was completely unbuttoned, showing a bunch of his chest hair, and it was like I couldn't look at him, because that made me think of the dream!

I also had one more recently where I hugged him and was like, "Oh sorry, I shouldn't have done that," then he said it was OK and just sort of held me for a bit. Then he was massaging my shoulders. Again, it wasn't so much sexual as comforting and safe.

Oh wow, almost forgot the weirdest one! This was about when the transference was starting. I was in an episode of Law & Order: SVU, with MC as the psychologist on there. It was a case where police officers in the unit were being targeted, so they were being offered protection, like people guarding them. I was like, "What about MC?" Someone was supposedly watching him, and they thought he was asleep on the couch, but when I went to check, it was just a bunch of pillows to make it look like he was there. I freaked out, and it turned out the bad guys were holding him hostage. We managed to get him free of them, and at the end I kissed him. Again, comfort rather than sexual.

Incidentally, I told him about that dream once I shared the transference. He's pretty short for a guy, as is the guy in the role when I was watching (BD Wong). So MC was like, "Oh, sure, picture me as the short guy!" I was like, "Well, he's the psychologist! And he's kinda hot." (This was in one of our two individual sessions to address transference--didn't say that in front of my H!)

Had a couple other random ones about him, but will leave it at that.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

I have had a couple dreams about my T. Never anything sexual. My last one was after I sent her a very emotional email and I guess I was upset about it. I have not told her and I don't plan to. I like it because I can see her in my dreams and in person.

I've had short dreams about each of my therapists.

They're all in the therapy room though.

With my first male ones, they were nightmares.

With my first female one, she was terminating me.

With my current one, I'm talking to my first female one trying to find my current one. I'm saying I'm happy to see her but I need to find my current T to complete my therapy work.

I've mentioned my dreams in words and writing but not what details they contain to each T. Example "I have nightmares of you", "I dream you're leaving", "I see first female T but am looking for you."

[junkDNA]

ive had dreams about my T, i dont remember some of them. they are just random. i remember 2, one where i was at a party and T was there and i was hiding in the bathroom smoking meth and he caught me. the other one was i was hallucinating in my dream and trying to text him to tell him i need help but all my texts were just jibberish

[LonesomeTonight]

Just realized I didn't answer the second part of your question. It's kind of nice the dreams I have of MC because they leave me feeling kind of warm and fuzzy. But then, sometimes I feel sad, because he can't hold me like in the dreams...

[atisketatasket]

I guess I had a non-specific therapy dream too - this was when I was seeing a lot of therapists and gynecologists in a short period of time. I dreamed up a gyno-therapist.

All the boundaries they like to talk about? Gone. And not in a sexual way.

Imagine having a pelvic exam while being asked "and how do you feel about...?"

[stopdog]

I have recurring dream/near nightmares about the therapist - it is the first one. In them, the woman's face is always obscured and it usually involves some sort of just missing each other or we talk for almost the whole time and then it is confirmed that she does not know me and I don't know her - we have been mistaken about who the other is.

With the second one, I have had only one dream and she was clearly visible -but she moved her office to a pub and it was all very open and no privacy and she had her family there too.

I've had several dreams about my t. Since we do dream work as part of my therapy, I always share them with her just like any other dream and we talk about them. Only thing is when I read them to her, she always has me refer to her as "dream-you" instead of "you". I just had a dream about her a few nights ago and when I read this one to her, I'm going to say "dream-I" and "dream-you" this time. It only this week struck me to wonder why it's ok that I refer to my dream self as "I" but her dream self has to always be "dream-you" and not "you". Trifling maybe, but, yeah. One time a long time ago I dreamed about her standing on a beach and a sand castle rises up out of the sand around her. I remember it because when I read it to her, she told me that she had dreamed about a castle too. Weird.

[JustShakey]

He shows up in my dreams every so often. He encourages me to talk about them, but I feel really awkward doing so. It feels silly to me to talk seriously about dreams, even though I take them seriously myself. I guess I don't expect others to:/
Previous T sometimes shows up in my dreams as my Shadow. I like to see her like that, though she's not her, she's me... Dreams are odd like that...

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[magno11789]

I've never dreamt of any of my Ts before the beginning of last month. Last month I had a dream about my old T. It was weird because I haven't seen her in over 6 months, and I don't think about her. I did not tell my current T about the dream because I felt too embarrassed.

[Argonautomobile]

T shows up in dreams every now and again--or, rather, he doesn't show up. I have dreams about him not showing up for appointments, getting stuck in session with some stranger and protesting vehemently that I want to see my T.

I've never talked about it--I've more pressing issues and those therapy minutes go by way too quickly. And, anyway, I think the meaning is pretty clear

[RedSun]

Good thread!

Trigger for gory details!

I have had dreams about T, - the most memorable was that I went down into some cellar, and Catlin Stark from Game of Thrones was there sat in a sort of throne, except it was my T. She had her throat cut and she said 'you're having a panic attack' and I woke up having a panic attack!

I dream about driving a lot, and I often see her car in those dreams.
I like dreaming about her. I did tell about one dream once I think, I got the impression that she doesn't think dreams in general have much relevance.

I have had a few dreams about t. I never tell her about them but I believe that they were a good sign. I didn't tell her about them because I know how she was trained and she would ask why I brought this particular dream to her on a particular day and because she didn't want to know about my maternal transference for her, I felt it would be inappropriate to tell her.
I wish I could have told her but I know she reacts very strongly in a negative way if I ever mentioned my feelings for her.

[HAL_9000]

Hello to the forum. I had one single dream about T 3 sessions before my therapy ended abruptly: We're at a party at my place, during the night we find ourselves at the couch, we lean to kiss and it's the best kiss of my life. I'm washed in a warm sexual feeling thinking that it finally happened. She pushes me back a little and says "Look what you make do". Dream ends I wake up in my life of depression and feel robbed of the best moment of my life - it was a dream.

[iheartjacques]

I dream about him, a lot, probably every week.

[Petra5ed]

All the time. I've had dreams about him, and told him about them. Took some time for me to warm into the idea. I told him "easy" ones at first, and he reacted like I was telling him any other mundane thing about me, like it was no surprise. And by now I've even told him about sex dreams about him, although it is a wee bit uncomfortable for me.

I'm glad I have them. I love seeing him in real life, and I love seeing him in my dreams. Especially the sex dreams, are you kidding! Those are the best.

I used to have lots of dreams about T1, often sexual, which I think related to the power struggle between us. I never told him as I didn't think he'd handle it well.
I've only dreamt about T2 once and he wasn't actually in it, it was about getting there and being late and anxiety about what I was going to talk to him about. I discussed it with him and it was useful.

I had dreams about my 2nd. therapist when I first started seeing her (about two months in). It was a good dream and indicated to the both of us that I was seeing her in a positive role but that I worried about her judgment of me. I never had any dreams (that I remember) about first therapist and haven't had any up to this point about 3rd. I love dreams and when I remember them, I do love tearing into them and trying to figure out what triggered them and what they mean.