Do you feel you can rely on your T?

Yes I can rely on him to be consistent. That doesn't mean he'll reply to every email, but he does do what he promises he will.

I'm not sure what this means or how it applies. My therapist has never not done something she said she would do. She has also not been able to fit me into her schedule a couple times when I needed an extra one, but has done this when she can. So I'm not sure that I can associate her schedule with her reliability, as long as she's there for my regular appointment time. There was one time she double booked and I got bumped. As a person, she seems reliable enough. Not flakey. I guess I'm still not sure what this topic is getting at.

Yes in a professional sense. But if I had a car breakdown? Therapist would just drive by.

Unfortunately, no, I have to say no, because sometimes she was available,other times, not.

I occasionally called (email, text) and requested a response and got nothing. I never hounded her, hounded her ever
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How about a consistent reply policy?

Um , if my car broke down the man would just drive by!

For the most part , yes. She has never cancelled on me. She always lets me know in advance when she will be out of the office. She is 100% on point in that regard. Here's where it's a little sketchy; sometimes I need to remind her to email my invoice... She doesn't answer my emails in a consistent manner like she used to... She doesn't say "I'm sorry" when she screws up.
Sometimes I wonder if we are truly a good fit... And to be truthful admittedly I get to feeling this way when there is a lapse in sessions... her taking a few weeks off which everyone deserves a break! Who knows...

I think I can rely on her to "be her therapist self" during our scheduled sessions, but that's about it.

She gets "it's Sunday and there's work tomorrow" blues like anyone else.

No outside contact so there's that too.

My T is an absolute angel. He is always available in one respect or another and is very responsive. He is very attuned to my ways and often notices things I don't. Compassionate and understanding, he is the only person who has been truly helpful for me.
Pdocs on the other hand have been a nightmare, and I am deathly afraid of working with them. I have to find a new one right now, and like you said, I'm scared of reaching out for help and not getting proper care.

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Yes. But it's not so much just in reaching out Where's she reliable. She just is reliable.

not really .i dont think she would ever offer me an extra session or give me one if asked . no calls or e mails either . she use to say i could call her but now she never returns the call or she once said i could ask to see her but when i did she said to call her back the next day and if i was still upset she would see. it took all i had to call and ask once .when i did was told to call back if i was still upset i never asked again ill never risk asking her for anything again even if she said it was ok for me to

My T is very reliable. I would find a new T if he wasn't.

I can rely on her to do her job and that is all I need. If I were to need an extra appointment, she would give me one as long as one was available and, of course, I paid for it. I don't rely on her for out of session contact bc I don't need/want that. She shows up when she's supposed to, she keeps my stuff confidential, she doesn't physically harm/touch me, she takes continuing ed stuff and attends seminars to keep up to date with tx modalities, and so forth.....she does her job and that's what I rely on.

I would never even consider reaching out to a therapist for anything outside of a session. I just think it's a bad idea.

I'm not sure if I think there's a difference between depend and rely on my T, but I read your question more in terms of how one's T reacts to your emotional needs vs needs for time or a specific 'thing' taken care of. This is probably because I had a specific need from my T last week to respond in some way to my feeling of fear. I didn't call my T and tried to deal with it myself, which didn't work well. But I wasn't sure my T would either understand the fear I was feeling from our session or that s/he would respond in a way that would make me feel I could rely/depend on them to offer what was needed to alleviate my distress. So, the short answer is, I don't know if I can rely on my T to help me when I'm distressed or in emotional trouble...I haven't tested it.