T not digging deep enough

So... I'm dreading going to T. I have problems with hallucinations, delusions, demood swings, ocd, anxiety and DID... but she never really asks me deep questions with them. I feel like I'm not getting to the bottom of them. Really, I don't even know what' my diagnoses because they haven't gave me one yet! But she only only wants to talk deeply about everything else in my life like family and what regular stuff happened this week. I have MAJOR DID/Dissociation problems and she won't dive into them. Everytime I bring it up it's like "oh.. ok"

This is serious for me, but I don't want go to another and try to explain it all again. I'll feel guilty for switching T. How should I handle this?

Does your therapist have experience dealing with DID, delusions, etc.? I'd be very concerned if I kept bringing up issues that were important to me and my therapist refused or was unable to address them. Please don't feel guilty about switching. I know how difficult it has been for me to re-establish rapport with a new therapist, so I can understand your concern, but you getting the help you need is the most important thing.

Have you actually been diagnosed professionally? I ask because you say they haven't given you a diagnosis yet, but you list quite a few diagnoses on your profile. If you believe you do hold these diagnoses, a formal evaluation might be the place to start so that your therapist has a clearer idea of what is going on. It might be that the therapist is not really experienced in working with your diagnosis and if it is what you list on your profile, a very highly trained and experienced therapist is probably a must.

Your T may be working on building the therapeutic relationship needed to address the issues you mention. Particularly for things like DID and general dissociation there needs to be a safe relationship in place before deeply delving into these issues - if you've not been seeing her for long it may just be too soon. The other thing is that these issues are usually signs of something, eg dissociation is strongly related to trauma, she may be exploring family and day to day stuff to get a sense of what might be underlying the symptoms you've mentioned.

My T works in a very gentle way, I thought dealing with my issues would be awful, traumatic and hard. While it is very hard at times, she has a way of setting the pace to where it's not until I look back that I can see how much work we've done, it just didn't feel as world endingly painful as I thought it would. Is it possible she's chipping away slowly?

You could ask her why she keeps moving away from what you want to talk about?

I think Merecat is right. When dealing with DID apparently diving in to the trauma too soon can be really damaging. T's need to build the relationship and trust between the two of you first, and also make sure you are stable. It is dangerous to start to trying to deal with the trauma before you are stable enough to handle it. I guess when day to day life is going ok and smoothly - that is when the deeper stuff starts.

I only say this cos I was getting as frustrated as you are, and so started reading loads of books on treating trauma and realised what he was doing.

Thers a stabilizing period that goes on. Plus it's for the client to rally about what they want. It's not for the T to poke if they 'dig' before a client is ready, it can cause harm.

Have you asked her directly why she doesn't seem more interested in the symptoms that disturb you the most? That would be a good place to start. I hope it works out.

Yes.

Have you told T you want her to dig deeper into those issues? Often T's will wait for you to bring stuff up, to let the client lead. She might just be trying not to push you. Maybe start next session saying you want to really want to talk about those concerns. As others said, it could be she's not that experienced in those issues, so she's less comfortable discussing them. In which case you may need a new T.

A big part of being a T is finding the right questions. Some are better at this than others.

Does your therapist specialize in dissociative disorders?

If not, move on.

It's a VERY specialized field.

I disagree with this. The most important thing (along side the connection of course) is that the T has the support of a peer group / supervisor who have expertise and experience with dissociative disorders. How else are T's new to the field going to gain the expertise everyone seems to insist on, if they are denied experience? My T is excellent, and I know he has a good support network, and I know Im the first he has had to deal with. I never would have guessed that until he told me.

If your T has no support network with Dissociative Disorders experience, and a supervisor with no experience, and they show no understanding of the condition or willingness to learn, then of course - move on!

Could it be that your T tries to build up a relationship? I don't know how long you are in therapy yet, but maybe she first wants to see the whole picture before talking more specifically about those things?
You say you have all these things (hallucinations, anxiety, etc). Was that something she diagnosed you with? If not, she may want to try to figure those things out for herself. Although, the way you told this made me think she agreed on this diagnosis.
In that case I'd just ask why she's doing this. She may have her reasons, but she should never refuse to give you an answer to that question, imo. I think that would make it easier for you to understand her work, without feeling ignored.

Wishing you the best of luck!