I keep getting this realisation. I've spent my entire life, either looking for someone to mother/rescue me. Now I'm finding that people I use to look at as mother figures, were only what I had made them to be. I feel like I'm coming from a different angle now when I talk to people that I use to talk to before.

Before when I talked with them, I'd have this constant fantasy going on, that they are really taking care of me and feeling sorry for me.

Now when I talk with them, I am listening to what they are saying and responding, and not constantly trying to work the conversation round to me. It feels really strange that part of me has disappeared? grown-up?

Its actually a really freeing feeling! To be constantly on the look out for a rescuer was exhausting! and terrifying!

I guess it must mean that I'm getting enought of what I needed from T now. I don't walk along the street looking at women wondering if they can be my mum. Its like everything is being "right sized" finally!

Maybe I was so emotionally young the world looked so big, now I feel like I'm at eye level with it.

[MissCharlotte]

((Mouse))

It's very encouraging for me to read this post....you are working through the relationship with T and I hope to be able to do the same.

So, how do those women look, now that they are your peers?

Thanks for the good news!

Sister, They look like humanbeings with fears and worrys of their own. I could never allow that before. Its really strange.

[SecretGarden]

Mouse... You are doing great.

[Lemon]

Wow Mouse! That is so great. It must feel like the world is a little lighter.

[Perna]

Actually, you're getting enough of what you need from yourself; your T is just showing you how, guiding you, as a really really good old friend would.