the therapist looking out/ahead for clients

stopdog · Feb 07, 2016, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Jaybird57

I voted, OTHER, because my therapist doesn't do this, but I'd be ticked if she did try something like that. I get to decide what I want to discuss and when I want to discuss it. I have no problem saying, "No, that's not something I want to explore."

I don't see how I could "not allow it" if she did do it, other than say, "I don't like it when you try to lecture me or tell me what to do." If she continued to do it, then I'd just find another therapist. I don't mind my therapist pointing out when I'm not considering all the options; I like that because sometimes I make snap decisions and need to consider all possible options (I'm getting better at that). But I don't want any therapist telling me what SHE thinks I should do. That gets to be my decision.

I see it as not allow in that I would continue to talk about what I wanted regardless of the therapist saying not to do so because of time or whatever. I am capable of handling myself and willing to take the responsibility of time running out.

nottrustin · Feb 07, 2016, 08:25 PM

Went with sometimes. Yes t tends to take care of me quite a bit. Sometimes I an thankful for it but other times it drives me crazy. She acts in a maternal way a lot. Lately I have been having a lot of medical issues. It is all new ro me. So maybe note handling it the best. So she had made her pinion well known. I am use to taking care of myself. On one hand I am thankful she cares but on the other hand I hate people worrying about me.

nottrustin · Feb 07, 2016, 08:30 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

That as where I got the idea of it - I would not like it in any context - for me the idea that the therapist would think they held any position where they could, in any sense or area, look out for me is presumptuous and incorrect. In responding to the poll - feel free to define it as you like and respond accordingly.

Oh I misinterpreted the question so forget my other past. I have never felt my T wantef to control our discussion. A couple of times she asked if I was in an okay place to discuss a topic. If i say yes we proceed. I am normally her last client of the day so if we go over it is okay.

spring2014 · Feb 07, 2016, 09:21 PM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Do you believe the therapist looks out or ahead for you?

hi stopdog ,
my therapist always looks out for me as her way of caring for me as her client .she always have a way of looking out for me due to her nursing and mothering skills and experience .

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Cinnamon_Stick · Feb 07, 2016, 10:37 PM

Yes my T always looks out for me and has my back. I really need it because I have a hard time looking out for myself. She has proved many times that she has my best interest at heart and I am very grateful for that.

msxyz · Feb 07, 2016, 11:33 PM

I chose other, the example you gave feels patronizing to me,not like looking out for someone. I expect my therapist to talk about whatever I want until my time is up and that's how it works in my therapy. I don't see the benefit of say crying alone at home about something over crying in therapy and then having to leave. People should be allowed to make that decision themselves.

justdesserts · Feb 08, 2016, 06:15 AM

I think my therapist only has my best interest at heart. Because there is a history of abuse in my relationship, he sometimes offers advice on how to stay safe. But, he would never use the guise of "looking out for me" to tell me what to with my life or in specific situations. That's not his job. His job is to help me explore my feelings about the problems I'm facing and so I can make the best possible choices. He isn't the one who has to live with the future that I create.

jeremiahgirl · Feb 08, 2016, 04:04 PM

In my therapy which lasted almost 6 years; and is now over, my therapist was definitely looking out for my best interest. Though he let me make decisions when needed, he often said the decision is yours!
He in NO WAY swayed me to do things his way. I think he was also looking at his success rate with those he served, by this I mean "if I came to him messed up" why would he allow me to continue that way?? If he did, he wasn't a righteous man held to his oath of "doing no harm" to those in his care. Should this happen to anyone I would prosecute to the fullest! A therapist who does harm shouldn't be in practice.

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Feb 08, 2016, 04:35 PM

I think that my t will offer her opinions and thoughts and it is up to me if I take them on board.

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