T had to cancel appointments and not sure when she will be back

I had an appointment with my T a week ago. When we organised it at the end of the previous session she told me she may have to cancel as her daughter was having a baby interstate.

Around 13 days ago she called asking if we could move the appointment to a week earlier - I supposed the baby was premature as it wasn't due until mid-Feb. But I'm not sure why she is staying so long...I said I could make it the next day, but on the morning of that new appointment she texted to cancel, saying she had to leave that morning. I talked to her on the phone as I was going through a rough patch and she said I could call her while she was away. But I haven't as I don't want to bother her.

In her text she said she'd contact me in a week or two - it's been around 12 days so I guess it's not unreasonable but I am feeling very abandoned. Also very anxious wondering when she will be back and how soon I can have an appointment. These last couple of weeks have been particularly bad and I'm not coping.

How should I deal with this sense of betrayal, abandonment and anxiety about when she will return?

Could you make an appointment with a different therapist to talk about it?

I think you should call her. I know you don't want to bother her, but she said you could call her, and you need support.

I wish I could, but I would have to seek one out - she may have one listed on her answering machine as she has before when she's been away, but I'm too nervous to call. Also my social anxiety would probably make a new T a terrible experience rather than help me.

I really hope you can find it within yourself to give her a call. Or could you text her and tell her you are feeling a bit anxious or whatever and ask her to ring you? I know you don't want to bother her, but she has a responsibility to you and I'm sure she would prefer that you call her rather than suffer with your anxiety and uncertainty.

You should call or email her to find out when you are going to see her next. Let her know you are struggling and need help. Maybe she could set up a phone consultation. This isn't fair to you.

Thanks everyone, it's been another day now and no word. I didn't actually expect she would be away for 2 weeks. She doesn't usually do appointments on Friday so even if she calls later this week I will probably have to wait until next week, at the earliest. I'm feeling angry and my anxiety is off the charts. I just imagine her being so caught up with a new baby and not wanting to come back to work, so even when I do see her I'll be thinking she doesn't want to be here. Really not in the mood to call her but I guess I don't have anyone else I can reach out to.

Assuming nothing serious is going on with the daughter or grand baby, I can't quite figure out why your t hasn't called you yet. Two weeks is a long time to leave clients in limbo. I could understand maybe a week tops. It's not like she is the one actually giving birth to the baby. Given your anger and anxiety is off the charts, I really think you should should call her.

I would reach out to her. It is possible something unexpected happened with the baby and she just hasn't had the opportunity to reach out.

I would call; she said to call because you are in a rough spot. Sounds like you need the support and reassurance.