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Last night I was making out with a guy I'd never met in a club. I was very drunk and I don't remember too much but he put his fingers inside me and I bled a lot - I don't know why which is kind of worrying. I'm not really sure what happened but today I'm still hurting. I cried a lot, I don't remember what happened but next thing I knew I was in the bathroom and people were asking me what they should do. I just left.

Can I call my T about this or am I supposed to go somewhere else? I truly don't feel like going to the doctor or anything. I'm seeing my T in a couple of days so maybe I could wait until then. I don't have anyone else I can tell/call.

I wouldn't call it assault as I can't really remember what happened and I'm sure at the time I thought it was fine as I was very drunk. It was just unwanted, especially as I bled so much and felt awful after. I suppose I will heal physically. Or will my T tell me to go somewhere to get checked?

[divine1966]

You need to go see a doctor ASAP. Like call ambulance right now please, or take yourself to the hospital to check out. Now not tomorrow

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[atisketatasket]

Second divine - excessive bleeding is unnatural. It also may indicate a condition that has nothing to do with what happened, and it's best to find that sort of thing out sooner rather than later.

[LonesomeTonight]

Hugs! I'd try calling your T, assuming you're allowed out-of-session contact. Out of curiosity, not to be TMI, but is your period due soon? If so, bleeding could be because of that. Or maybe he was especially rough. Might be helpful to talk to your T before going to a doctor, to make you feel better. Unless you're still bleeding, in which case you should go to the ER or an urgent care center. Or call your GYN tomorrow. You don't need to tell them the drunk part, just that a guy had his fingers inside you and you're now bleeding.

[substancelessblue]

Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight

Hugs! I'd try calling your T, assuming you're allowed out-of-session contact. Out of curiosity, not to be TMI, but is your period due soon? If so, bleeding could be because of that. Or maybe he was especially rough. Might be helpful to talk to your T before going to a doctor, to make you feel better. Unless you're still bleeding, in which case you should go to the ER or an urgent care center. Or call your GYN tomorrow. You don't need to tell them the drunk part, just that a guy had his fingers inside you and you're now bleeding.

Thank you. No, my period isn't due for a while and it's normally regular so I don't think it's that. I'm really scared about doctors etc which is why I thought of my T at first because I'm allowed to call her out of session, but then I guess she might tell me to do what you did... I'm not bleeding now so I suppose it's not urgent. Thanks for helping me out

[ilikecats]

I think you should talk to your T about this. That guy took advantage of you. You were drunk, and you said what he did was unwanted. Whether or not you'd call it assault, what he did isn't okay. I'm sorry this happened to you.

[Neptune83]

The advice is if you bleed between your period, or after anything sexual, you should get checked out because although it could be any number of things, you do need to find out the cause to rule out anything serious.
Also, the guy took advantage of you. It's not okay to do that. If you were that drunk that you can't remember anything then you were too drunk to consent to anything. Not only that, but you said it was unwanted. It doesn't matter that you were drunk, it doesn't matter if you were flirting, or anything else. It is assault if it's unwanted and/or you were too drunk to consent, no matter the circumstances that led to this. Talk to someone about it. I hope you're okay

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[AncientMelody]

I wonder if perhaps he scraped you with a sharp fingernail. That could hurt like hell and cause some bleeding. When you say "a lot" what is a lot, how long did you bleed for? I think medical evaluation may be a good idea as well, but I don't think there's anything wrong with getting in touch with your therapist first and getting some support there. Good luck and I'm sorry that you had a frightening experience

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Originally Posted by AncientMelody

I wonder if perhaps he scraped you with a sharp fingernail. That could hurt like hell and cause some bleeding. When you say "a lot" what is a lot, how long did you bleed for? I think medical evaluation may be a good idea as well, but I don't think there's anything wrong with getting in touch with your therapist first and getting some support there. Good luck and I'm sorry that you had a frightening experience

Thanks, I think you're right. I don't really know how long I bled for to be honest. Maybe only a couple of hours although I had some blood when I woke up and a little the next morning. I did call my therapist and she recommended going to a doctor but I haven't had the courage. I have a therapy session in 2 days. It was good to talk to her just so she could calm me down. Thanks for your words.