[hopealwayz]

My identify has been revealed and these two Ts are talking about me at every session. It makes me uncomfortable. Can I report my T for breaking my anonymity and revealing my identify?

How do you know you are the topic of conversation at every session? My guess is that probably isn't the case at all.

[itjustis]

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

My identify has been revealed and these two Ts are talking about me at every session. It makes me uncomfortable. Can I report my T for breaking my anonymity and revealing my identify?

How do you know your identity has been revealed?
Is it your T's supervisor?
My T tells me she sometimes brings me up in her supervisor sessions but she assures me that my identity is remained anonymous.

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[hopealwayz]

My T told me that he has been talking about me at every session. I had asked him about it.

And the other T revealed the fact that he knows that my T is my counselor. So that's how I know my identity has been revealed.

[ruh roh]

I think the problem of having your identity known might have been avoided if you hadn't gone to see your therapist's therapist. Neither of them sound very helpful to you, though, from things you have described in the past. Can you see someone else?

I know it's hard to see someone completely separate from your old T, and there's possibly some comfort in being able to talk to your new T about your old T because they know each other, but maybe that's exactly why you might benefit from seeing someone completely detached from your old T.

Maybe that's not something you want to think about now, but maybe in the future. You should always feel like you have privacy and have confidence in your T.

I'm sorry that this happened. I can only imagine how uncomfortable and vulnerable you probably feel. Anyone can make a report about a therapist to his/her governing board. The problem might be in this case, however, that you knowingly made an appointment to consult with your therapist's therapist. If you had mentioned you wanted to do this before actually going, your therapist might have warned you that such an action would put your identity at risk. I say this because your therapist might have very well used his own therapist as a supervisor related to his practice. He could do this by concealing your identity and simply talking about "issues" he was having in his delivery of service to you in a professional manner. I hate knowing that my therapist might be talking about me in a professional setting with other therapists, but I also know that supervision is CRITICAL to good service. It's a checks & balance type of need. Too much therapy seems to occur in a vacuum and the client gets the short end of the stick.

What might have happened in your situation is that by going and talking about your issues with your therapist's therapist, you identified yourself. He recognized your issues from his sessions with you therapist and put two and two together and realized that the person sitting in the session with him was one of his own client's clients. I would imagine, however, that if you told your therapist that he does NOT have your permission to discuss your case with this individual and you put it in writing, he would have to stop immediately. The best thing to do, if you feel you want to report your therapist is to call his governing board and talk to someone about the issue. Or talk with someone from TELL and see if they can help you.

Are you still seeing this therapist? Doesn't sound like a very healthy situation. I hope you're able to find someone who is able to help!

I'm not quite sure I understand the relationship the therapists have with one another and the relationship one, the other, or both has with you.

If you are seeing both of them it only makes sense you would come up. My psychiatrist and therapist share notes on me this I am aware of but it seems to me this is in a professional capacity.

Apparently her first T sees this second T for therapy, not just consultation. OP decided to see 2nd T on her own and didn't divulge to the 2nd T when she went to see him that the 1st T was her T (or I'm guessing the 2nd T would not have even seen her). It sounds like the 2nd T put 2 and 2 together and connected her to the 1st T (I haven't heard her give any evidence that it happened deliberately on her 1st T's part). Whole situation could have been avoided if she had not gone to see 2nd T and/or would have revealed her working relationship with 1st T to the 2nd T. (That's the best I understand the situation from what the OP has explained.) At this point, the OP probably should stop seeing the 2nd T and maybe even the 1st T because her working relationship with the 1st has not been terrible great (he placed a long list of restriction on her to try to maintain boundaries which clearly is an issue). I would think the 2nd T should discontinue seeing her even if she doesn't voluntarily stop on her own considering he was already established with her first T before she went to see him. Not sure why he hasn't done that.

[hopealwayz]

I'm only seeing T1 now. I only saw the 2nd T one time and never went back. The weird thing is that I didn't give away any identifying issues because I just basically talked about some surface issues that were different than what I talked to with first T. Also, when I was looking for another T, I had a phone consult with one and then I got pneumonia and missed the initial 2 hour appointment. And now he won't talk to me. I called and apologized profusely and asked for another appointment but he hasn't responded to me.

I'm going with the premise that therapist#1 does not know you saw therapist#2, at least officially because you never spilled the beans. If you want to stay with therapist#1, then I don't see this as a problem, because he is hopefully getting insights in his therapy with #2 that will be benificial to you, and his other clients. If it is to disturbing for you to know that that #2 knows whom #1 is speaking about, then I see two options; you come clean with #1 and process the meaning of all this, or you move on to a new therapist. The therapist for appointment you missed has not called back, so maybe you need to move on from him. These are my opinions only.

I'm aware from your other threads that money is a factor for you to see anyone, but maybe you can find a low fee public clinic , clergy, etc. to tie you over till you can afford and find who you want, even if it's back to #1.

[divine1966]

Did you ever go inpatient as your pdoc suggested? Are you back?

I think you can maybe report your t but governing boards might ask if you didn't want your identity revealed why schedule appointments with someone whom your own t sees for therapy. I don't know what reporting would accomplish. Maybe it's better to start seeing different t

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