[Ad Intra]

I always think, "I hope x,y,z doesn't make her feel concern or worry" when I talk about potentially dangerous things.

If they are not a quack, they are supposed to be able to handle what you say.

[stopdog]

No. I do not.

[Demunie]

I do.
And I think they should probably worry a bit (they're human after all), but they should be able to handle it.

[lozza89]

yes in the past I have.. one time the pdoc I was seeing freaked out big time to the extent that she actually called me all night and early hours of the morning (that afternoon something bad had happened and I had called her in a complete mess but she didn't answer and so I left a msg in tears (I do not think I said I had plans or anything for suicidal but that I was just really struggling)

I ended up dissociating really bad though and was in and out of sleep so wasn't able to answer when she was calling. The next morning woke up to a million missed calls from pdoc and well yeh... it probably would have been helpful if she had actually gotten my new address from me (I had just moved out of home and into supported accomodation)

Another time when I was seeing a counsellor (this was many yrs ago again) I must have worried my couns a lot because she then banned me from contacting her if I was even just feeling the tiniest bit suicidal.

my current T is really good though and I feel like she is way more able to help me no matter what state of mind I am in and so cuz of that it doesn't worry me as such if she sees me in a bad way... I know she can handle it and if not she addresses it with me which is what all professionals in this field should do.. its important that everyone is on the same page...

I use to want to worry her. I wanted that caring my telling Her would get me.

[taylor43]

I do, beccause my t is human. Right now he on sick leave and im worried about him. However he wants me to take care of myself.

[unaluna]

I think worrying is an immature form of attachment. Its like before you commit. Cuz once you commit, you have rights and responsibilities, to inform, to expect. With worry, you tell yourself youre still unsure, youre still independent.

[awkwardlyyours]

I only worry about her being worried to the extent that it may lead her to take some action that I'm not okay with (E.g. reporting concerns about me to authorities etc).

That hasn't happened but that's the only worry I have about worrying her.

Else, I don't care about worrying her -- I don't think she's easily worried. Irritated or annoyed at times? Possibly. But, worried, no.

[MobiusPsyche]

I don't worry about it. She has been concerned about me but I think that's not exactly the same as worried. Worry is having all the emotion but not doing anything about it...or you've taken action and the worry emotion is still around. When she is concerned, I think she takes action (talks to me about it) and then the concern goes away. Must be nice!

ETA: I guess I do think she might be concerned, when I'm about to tell her some things. But I use that as a sign that it's really important that I tell her those things.

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No, I figured that his concern for my well-being was in his job description. He always handled whatever was going on with me, including severe suicidality, with great professionalism and effectiveness. I relied on that ability to keep me alive several times.

[atisketatasket]

I do not worry about them or their feelings in any regard.

[Argonautomobile]

My Therapist recently told me outright he was worried about me. It surprised me, because I actually believed him. I'm still not sure how I feel about that.

[nottrustin]

No, I know she cares and at times has been concerned. However, I think it has been a normal human concern and she knows how to handle it. She knows that I will always reach out if I need her.

[moonlitwish]

The only worry I have about their worry is that they will morph something I've said into a reason to lock me back in the hospital. I feel like I constantly have to remind them that I walked into the ER voluntarily when things got bad and if I need that kind of help again, I'll ask for it. Thankfully my therapist fired me for being too high functioning so I only have to worry about my psychiatrist's reactions.

*~*moonlitwish*~*

[ruh roh]

In my experience, they don't worry much, if at all.

I was concerned about her when I was actively contemplating suicide, and a couple of times when I was making bad decisions with inherently dangerous consequences. I could not stop myself for me, and I believed my family was better off, but as she helped me exam my reasons for wanting to be gone I was able to bring myself back to continue my fight, not because I agreed with her, but because I did not want to leave her with the emotional pain she said she would feel if I committed suicide. During these conversations, she always expressed her concern and sadness that she was experiencing because I was in such deep emotional pain. I just couldn't do that to someone saying that I mattered to them. I had a heart. For me, when I finally got it that it was not all about me, and that I had choices, life finally had a shining light, and we were able to terminate therapy.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Yes I have. When I have been suicidal, she has always been overly concerned and I worried she would lock me up in a hospital. She never did and always trusted me when I would say I would stay safe and not do anything. That meant a lot. There are other times I don't want her to worry about me even though she is or does.

[LonesomeTonight]

Yes, I have worried about that and also worried that T and marriage counselor would be disappointed in me. I know they have worried about me because a couple months ago, when I was going through a really rough time, T actually told me "We were really worried about you" (referring to herself and MC). In one way, I felt bad that they were worried, but in another, it was nice to know they cared that much (and it felt like actual caring, not just "I only care in the sense that it's my job").

Someone upthread said that worrying meant they weren't doing anything about it, but in this case, they were answering my after-hours calls, talking to me on the weekend or late at night, letting me know they saw my texts, etc. And again, it felt like they were doing that because they cared (based on how their voice sounded, etc.), not because they just felt a professional obligation.

[cheshiregrins]

No, when I get in that crazy state when I'd do harmful things to myself, I can't believe that anyone would be worrying about me. No one else exists at those times. (It's an abandonment/dissociation thing.)