[hopealwayz]

My psychiatrist said his problem in life has always been over accommodating to people. He has became very strict with me and he keeps repeating that God sent me to him to help him learn his lessons about over accommodating to people. I know it's not fair to me for him to use his personal issues in treating me.
His strickness has gone overboard and is now harmful instead of helpful. I am going to write him a letter stating that I can't work with him because of his issues affecting my therapy. However, I'm unsure of where to start with the letter but I want to address this primary issue of his issues and why my therapy isn't working because of his rigid rules because of his stated lessons that he needs to learn from God as he puts it.

[JaneTennison1]

He doesn't seem like he wants to work with you anymore and your pursuit of him appears to be harmful. I hope you get help from a skilled professional.

I think discontinuing with him is a good idea. I doubt that he will be surprised. I hope you can find a regular therapist who will be more able to meet your needs.

Hope alwayz, why don't you just request a new therapist and tell them why in a nutshell like you told us? Blessings (((hugs)))

[divine1966]

Just start seeing new pdoc for Meds and therapist for therapy and stop seeing this guy. He comes up with tons of excuses why he can't see you. He doesn't want to work with you. It sucks but in a long run it is for the best as he isn't helping you at all. Writing letters wouldn't make him change his ways. Perhaps by saying that he needs to not be overly accommodating he subtly admits that he caused you harm by allowing you to pursue him when it clearly wasn't helpful or therapeutic. I hope you stop seeing him as it is not just harmful it also ruining you financially. You are paying but he provides no proper services.

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[Merecat]

If I remember rightly he has repeatedly set boundaries that you can't work with and has been clear he doesn't want to have contact with you between med refills. I'm wondering what you think writing to him wil achieve. He isn't doing therapy with you and so isn't your therapist - I doubt he'll be in any way bothered at your decision to move on, which may sound hurtful but isn't intended to be. You need much more support than he can provide you, it would be an act of kindness to yourself to stop trying to get a reaction from him and find a service that wants to, and is able to, meet your needs.

[eclogite]

What Merecat says.

I agree with what others have said, and also, his comment about God sending you to teach him lessons about being overaccommodating is ludicrous, harmful, and would frankly make me want to run a mile on its own.

I start with "straight jacket included"

[Argonautomobile]

I'd start by telling him you're the proprietor of your own life, not a plot device in his.

[awkwardlyyours]

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

... he keeps repeating that God sent me to him to help him learn his lessons about over accommodating to people.

And, this guy has a license to prescribe meds????

[missbella]

It's not the clients job to train them. I caused myself damage trying to "get through" and continuing a delusional therapist's game. They can get so lost in metaphor, they lose touch with reality.

[doogie]

Please....just walk away. What do you think you are gaining by continually trying to have contact with someone who has repeatedly set boundaries for you to limit your communication with him? I'm beginning to wonder if you love the drama and attention your posts stir up here. If you walk away from him, you also walk away from the attention. What is your real motivation in this situation? I really don't mean to sound harsh, but you aren't helping yourself by continually stirring the pot with this dr. and we aren't helping you by enabling you to keep this going. Examine you motives - both in your real life and by posting here. Make the best decision for you and reach out in real life for someone who can help you like you really need.

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

My psychiatrist said his problem in life has always been over accommodating to people. He has became very strict with me and he keeps repeating that God sent me to him to help him learn his lessons about over accommodating to people. I know it's not fair to me for him to use his personal issues in treating me.
His strickness has gone overboard and is now harmful instead of helpful. I am going to write him a letter stating that I can't work with him because of his issues affecting my therapy. However, I'm unsure of where to start with the letter but I want to address this primary issue of his issues and why my therapy isn't working because of his rigid rules because of his stated lessons that he needs to learn from God as he puts it.

I'm glad you were able to come to terms with the harm being caused in this defunct relationship. I know it must be very difficult for you, and I commend you for finding the strength and courage to deep six this guy.

As for where to start with the letter... I would advise that you know what your exact intentions are in writing this letter and make sure those intentions are positive, not negative. Once you know exactly what your intentions are and what you need to address, the writing will come easily (if you find you still need to write at all).

Good luck. I hope you can find a good, healthy t soon.

[WrkNPrgress]

Originally Posted by hopealwayz

My psychiatrist said his problem in life has always been over accommodating to people. He has became very strict with me and he keeps repeating that God sent me to him to help him learn his lessons about over accommodating to people. I know it's not fair to me for him to use his personal issues in treating me.
His strickness has gone overboard and is now harmful instead of helpful. I am going to write him a letter stating that I can't work with him because of his issues affecting my therapy. However, I'm unsure of where to start with the letter but I want to address this primary issue of his issues and why my therapy isn't working because of his rigid rules because of his stated lessons that he needs to learn from God as he puts it.

I hate to see a client worrying over the feeling of their therapist while they're being hurt and manipulated. GOD is no excuse for a therapist tp put thier own issues in front of a client. Period. He sounds highly unethical and unbalanced.

His job is to work for you, not himself. The truth is, you don't owe him any explanation at all if you're not comfortable with him. Find a new therapist. Just quit him and find someone better. You can revisit the issue later when you like.

[hopealwayz]

I contacted a therapist earlier and she just called me back. She sounds like someone I would click with.