[FindPeace]

One of my alters is a child and the child likes my T....My T is a hugger and hugs all her clients....anyways....I've never allowed her to hug me but the child wants to hug her but the child is very very shy and afraid of being rejected by T...

So the child wants to hold T's hand just for a second but shes scared of touch but she wants to be close to T....So do I tell T what the child wants?....and how do I get the nerve to tell her?..........FP

[Gracey]

Can you let your little innie tell her?

[FindPeace]

she is too shy to tell her, she wants me to tell her......

[Gracey]

Well, it is definitely our jobs to protect the little innies. I understand your prediciment, but I'm a mommy on the outside as well. I have found that lots of times I can get my children to draw pictures of things they want when they are too shy or too reserved to say it out loud. Do you have crayons and maybe some paper? Tell her you'd like to see a picture of how she envision holding T's hand. AFTER she draws it, then ask her, "You know, I'm happy to tell her what you'd like, but would mind if I show her your picture too? That way she can see just how you'd like her to hold your hand/hug you."

My innies like to color a lot. I go through a couple boxes of crayons a month.

My children love being held/hugged/handing holding with T. They just have to ask, which is hard for them a lot of the time.
I (the big) would tell T "my little one wants to be close to you. They want to hold your hand but are scared of touch, is there anyway you can sit close to them this session, and if it's ok with you, hold their hand briefly to show its ok?"

[FindPeace]

Thank You both, you have helped alot!....FP