The Couch 115: Corduroy Pillows Are Making Headlines!

Tired.
Can't sleep.
Not tired.
Don't want to watch TV.
Don't want to read.
Don't want to just lay here.
Blergity, blerg blerg blerg.
Muffins!

You did make sense and that is what I would want, too.

For me it is not worth it, ever. But for other people it is. The trick is to find out what is your own feeling about it, not based on what all other people seem to think or feel but on what genuinely makes you feel less bad.

And you have TimTams. We get Oreos (although most of the American food products discuss here are unknown to me) but we do not get TimTams. I need Aussie care packages! I even do the TimTam slam!

It's late and I really need to go to bed, but I don't want to. This is the only time I have to myself to think and listen to my music.

So much in my heart. Friends and what my counselor and I talked about tonight. I took the pieces of me and we played with them in the floor again. I can think so much better that way than sitting in the chair.

I feel bad because I think he's not comfortable on the floor. He's very tall. It most probably is uncomfortable. That makes me sad.

I'm babbling. Really don't want to go to bed. Too many things swirling in my mind that I can't get a hold on.

Giving myself 30 more minutes and then I'll do it!!

I really don't like nighttime.

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I hope you get some rest, EM and Trailrunner.

For me, it's time to get up and start another day. T this morning. Not feeling too good about it.

And I just realised that the coming weekend is a three-day one.

Wow! I can't do the Tim tam slam, i think its sacrilegious A Tim Tam should be savoured in all its chocolate-y glory not used as a straw. But well done. I could send you a pack or two. Usually when they on special I buy 4 or 5 packs.

I think what I meant was I don't want to wish for something that is not available from my T. Whats the point of discussing this with a T anyway.

Good luck with T Crocus.

Can't help myself. Confession.....

I don't drink sodas. Don't eat sugar. Don't eat gluten, in its obvious form, bread other things like that. I don't use over the counter meds. I use essential oils. I know! . They work for me! All that being said...

I smoke and drink beer to my hearts delight. Logic???!!

Makes no sense to me. Crutch? Don't know! And it's 12:30 AM I should be in the bed by now.

Just saying.

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Everyone has a secret delight or three.

Thank you! I guess we do. Yes! I do believe we do.


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I think guilty pleasure is a ridiculous phrase, secret delights makes them more acceptable.

Us too! Queen's Birthday. What's yours?

T might help you to accept that you can't have X but your real need is Y and maybe you can satisfy it with Z.

That would be the constructive approach a T could take.

I avoid talking about these things with T since he confused me with the time I asked him to have sex. He's reply was ambiguous. I may say something soon as its starting to gnaw at my soul a bit.

National day, 6 June. Commemorates a couple of things, including Gustavus Wasa being elected king in 1523 and ending Danish rule under the Kalmar Union, and the constitution from, er, 1809 I think. I will probably try to work as much as possible. Nationalism bothers me very much and I see no reason to celebrate a random set of lines on the map.

Interesting thought - thanks!

Feeling a bit better after the session this morning - I'm trying to internalise this, and the things we talked about, so the positive things don't get washed away by shameangersadnessshame, as they tend to do.

A late contribution to the discussion about genuineness: because (as discussed previously) I am not very good at knowing things about myself, how I come across to other people, and whether my reactions are understandable and human or over-the-top and unacceptable, my T is an important source of knowledge for me about these things. (I understand that this is not something that everybody wants from their Ts. I want this, and if I get it, all the better; if others don't want it, that's good for them.) If I did not trust that my T was being genuine and truthful in his responses to me, then the input I seek from him would be worthless. As it happens, I'm sure that he is genuine, not least because he does not offer reassurance or comfort, and he doesn't hesitate to tell me when my words include bovine manure. Hence I believe him when he tells me that he can understand reactions that make no sense to myself. If other people find it sad and/or offensive that that helps me, sorry, but that's their problem and not mine.

I have to go to the dentist this afternoon and I'm hiccoughing (or whatever you call it). I hope the hiccoughs will be gone by the time I get there.

Yay! They're gone, now hoping they stay that way.

So I asked the guy I'm having sex with if we're in a relationship or if we're just **** buddies. He said we're the latter. I'm kinda disappointed and sad. I'm afraid I'm getting too attached to him, and that I like him more than he likes me. Any advice to deal with this?

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I have no idea - I've never been in a relationship. But maybe you can also post this in the Relationship & Communication subforum? I think you'll gain a better response there.

You probably won't like my answer but you could try to find someone compatible and have a non-sexual relationship first. That's what we did in the old days and it worked, believe it or not!!

It has been my observation that most men will not willingly switch from **** buddies to a relationship unless they are completely cut off by the **** buddy and then discover that they actually miss the person enough to start a real relationship. I have not personally been in that situation, but that is how it appears to me from watching my kids' friends' relationships.

Yup. Date someone. Enjoy spending time with them. Get to know them as a person. The sex is much better if there's an emotional attachment first (in my opinion).

that's how i take them too