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Old Jun 05, 2016, 06:33 PM
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Eh, don't worry about it, you're not alone
I could use some good girl time. You heading up this way any time soon?
We should just plan it some weekend!

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Old Jun 05, 2016, 06:37 PM
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We should just plan it some weekend!

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The ex is talking about bringing the kids to Disney in July. If it comes off I'd have a whole free weekend to play with... I haven't had two free days to rub together since I don't know when...
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 06:38 PM
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Sorry to hear JS! (((Hugs)))

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Old Jun 05, 2016, 06:40 PM
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 07:56 PM
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Ah I get it. Yes, neutral was the word I was flailing around for and couldn't find
I perceived neutrality as hostility.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 07:57 PM
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We've talked about it before.. We just don't agree.

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I find a certain amount of agreement is necessary if the relationship is to succeed.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 07:59 PM
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I find a certain amount of agreement is necessary if the relationship is to succeed.


We agree on most things.. This is just one place where we don't see eye to eye on.

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Old Jun 05, 2016, 08:13 PM
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I dunno -- I perceive neutrality as a profound act of respect and a certain attempt at authenticity.

Then again, that is basically the no. 1 reason I'm still with my T -- she rarely ever attempts any sort of an emotional reaction, and the times that she has, she recovered rather quickly and got back to her usual impassive self (with my active support).
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 08:24 PM
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So the guy I'm seeing said to come over at 9, but he isn't home. Someone else let me into the apartment building, and he doesn't lock his apartment, so I'm waiting in his room. None of his roommates are home. It's 23 past nine and I've texted him and haven't heard back. Now I'm worrying that he got in a car accident or is dead or something. Gah! I need to know what's going on or I'm going to freak out.

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Old Jun 05, 2016, 08:29 PM
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No worries Velcro.. lol. And to answer your question, T says he has seen improvements in different areas that I have been dealing with. And I suppose I have seen some of the small improvements as well. It just seems like the whole wanting to die part over shadows everything.

T emailed me this morning.. all positive, blech.. talking about wonderful goal wanting to live for myself.. you are working hard.. blech.. He has got to get discouraged sometimes, it would be nice if he told me every once in a while..
Would you like him to tell you he is discouraged?
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I think therapists could be neutral. I don't think one has to go from the extreme of positivity to morose.
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I perceived neutrality as hostility.
I can also perceive neutrality as some sort of negative emotion, which is what happened with my last T. As much as I am loathe to admit it, I need a little humanity and genuineness. My T isn't all Pollyanna at all, but sometimes I need to hear "You are not a horrible person" from time to time.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 08:40 PM
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[QUOTE=velcro003;5109532]Would you like him to tell you he is discouraged?





Yes, I think so.

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Old Jun 05, 2016, 08:40 PM
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So the guy I'm seeing said to come over at 9, but he isn't home. Someone else let me into the apartment building, and he doesn't lock his apartment, so I'm waiting in his room. None of his roommates are home. It's 23 past nine and I've texted him and haven't heard back. Now I'm worrying that he got in a car accident or is dead or something. Gah! I need to know what's going on or I'm going to freak out.

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I would leave. Pronto. He doesn't get to jerk you around like that.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 08:47 PM
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So the guy I'm seeing said to come over at 9, but he isn't home. Someone else let me into the apartment building, and he doesn't lock his apartment, so I'm waiting in his room. None of his roommates are home. It's 23 past nine and I've texted him and haven't heard back. Now I'm worrying that he got in a car accident or is dead or something. Gah! I need to know what's going on or I'm going to freak out.

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Has he shown up? If not, and if he's not responding to your texts, yeah, I'd go ahead and leave.

Also, he doesn't lock his apartment? That's kinda weird. (Unless you live in an area where there's, like, zero crime.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 09:18 PM
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Would you like him to tell you he is discouraged?





Yes, I think so.

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Has he shown up? If not, and if he's not responding to your texts, yeah, I'd go ahead and leave.

Also, he doesn't lock his apartment? That's kinda weird. (Unless you live in an area where there's, like, zero crime.
Agreed.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 09:48 PM
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Because he is a normal human being that feels discouraged when things aren't going as planned.. I don't understand it would be out of the realm of possibility for my t to be discouraged with where I am mentally right now.

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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:15 PM
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Chocolate pie and cool whip. It's what's for dinner.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:18 PM
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I had cauliflower, sweet potato and chick peas.
No cool whip.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:24 PM
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Shrimp and grits for me. I think ice cream for dessert.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:25 PM
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ExHankster - why did you remove your post?
It made me uncomfortable and I was afraid it would make others uncomfortable. I was out of order!
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:30 PM
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:36 PM
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The noise that gets on my nerves most at Christmas is the bells the Salvation Army Santas ring to get you to put money in their kettles. Somehow that bell sound hits some deep auditory nerve the wrong way.

And yes, I am a horrible person.
It's okay - they're anti-gay that bell is piercing!
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:39 PM
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It's okay - they're anti-gay that bell is piercing!
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:40 PM
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Eh, I just didn't feel like cooking anything and the pie was already made. Ergo.
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Old Jun 05, 2016, 10:44 PM
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Eh, I just didn't feel like cooking anything and the pie was already made. Ergo.
Ergo, vescor fruorque! (Therefore, I eat and enjoy!)
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