T terminated me

I know this is difficult, but I'm glad he was finally completely straight with you and stopped stringing you along. I think he had tried various passive-aggressive ways to make things so uncomfortable for you that you would terminate on your own and he wouldn't have to be the bad guy, but it didn't work and that tactic was just unprofessional and cowardly of him to have handled (or not handled) the situation that way.

I need to find closure on this but I feel a huge hole in my heart that I have to figure out.

I think he meant that issue of op being attached to him is un resolvable not that her pattern of behavior is un resolvable in general . He tried to set limits and probably hope it could be a normal doctor patient interaction but it did not work so he says it's un resolvable between them two. I don't think he meant she can never get better. He suggested structured therapy after well. Saying that he is an idiot regardless what he meant

I also see a problem with the fact that is a Pdoc and clearly didn't want and probably didn't have to do therapy. He charged enormous amount of money for 15 minutes visit. This isn't therapy. He was kind of letting op know but in a passive aggressive way not responding and not providing sessions. He had to be straight forwards in the beginning saying: I am not your t and will not do therapy. Offering 15 minutes appointments was a passive aggressive way. He sucks

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It will take time. Spend time looking for new doc and t. Hugs

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At least the T/Pdoc finally put an end to it. There's no more dmg he can do to the op than he's already done. He set her free. Not in the nicest of ways albeit. Now there's room for healing.

You may find anger is energizing.

Wish you the best.

He said that he would do my medicine for the next two months but won't respond to my request for a refill.

Handle that through the pharmacy. Let them know the doctor had stated he would be sure you were supplied for two months after which you are supposed to have found another doctor. With that information, the pharmacy should be able to contact the doctor to get refills approved. There is no need to contact the doctor personally at this point.

There is no need to contact him, go to your pharmacy. That's why he made it refillable for two months so you won't contact him. Talk to your pharmacist. I believe it's in your benefit to stop contacting him. I know he is an idiot but he made it clear to stop contacting him, you do need to stop.

I've never been on any Meds that needed a refill but my fiancée is on OCD Meds. He doesn't contact his doctor for refills whatsoever, neither call nor go there. Only when it's time for a next visit which is very infrequent. Unless you want a change in dosage or some unexpected side effects why do you contact him?

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Just call your local pharmacy and ask for them to refill your meds. That's what I do. All of the pharmacies I've been to will refill it over the phone. Just make sure to have an government ID

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it actually wasn't a horrible letter he wrote except for the part about laying guilt trips and being a needy woman. Anyway I am sorry you are going through this.

Please get your medicine from the pharmacy and don't try to contact him for your own safety.

“Apart from that, Mrs. Lincoln, how did you like the play?”

I have to admit, this fits. But are you also implying others to lighten up?

Edit: Implying, not telling. Sorry.

She will eventually need to find another doctor. The pharmacy won't just keep refilling the script without authorization. I got the impression from the letter that this doctor will provide such authorization for only two more months. You guys are confusing me!.

One of my ADHD meds has to have a paper prescription because refills are not allowed because it's a C-II. The other meds don't have any refills left.

Call the office (not the doctor -- the receptionist can do this) who will have the prescription waiting for you to pick up. Still does not require calling the doctor directly. Unless he has no receptionist/office staff, they are quite used to handing these prescription requests. The ones that don't have refills but do not require a written prescription can be requested directly from the pharmacy. The pharmacy will contact the doctor for refills.

Is there anyone that can act as a third party for you here. It is so sad but your relationship has completely broken down and any more contact may only serve to hurt you further. You need your meds sorting, you need to be clear how this is to be achieved but you may not be the person to do this. I would understand if there wasn't anyone you could call on here, I know I wouldn't have, but if there is anyone then it might be an option.

"I will make sure that you have two months of your current medication. You need to find another psychiatrist to manage her medication. I will either mail you your ADHD medications or electronically send other medications to the CVS across from my office unless you designate a different pharmacy."

Just call his office and ask the receptionist to have the prescription either waiting for you there or mailed to your home (sounds like that is what he said he would do). The pharmacy can take care of the rest of the meds.

I am not telling others to do anything.

I meant, "Are you implying?" sorry for the confusion.

To lighten up?
No, I was not.

Oh, okay, because that phrase can be used to tell someone to lighten up. I was just curious.

I'm confused now...how does that particular joke suggest people should lighten up? (Not trying to be difficult, but genuinely curious - I would never take it that way, but I often misunderstand things.)

OP - what the letter said about medications is quite clear, as LG points out. You only got the letter yesterday or the day before, right? Given that and that it's a holiday weekend in the US, he may not have gotten to deal with medications yet.

I would really strongly encourage you to not contact this guy under any circumstances. Now that you are not his patient and he has made clear he wants no further contact, what's to say he might not cause legal trouble for you if you try to maintain contact?

The best explanation? One can use the phrase a way to lighten a highly-strung situation by calling attention to other stuff by pointing out that other things are also going on. Even if those other details are less eventful or crucial in the moment. Though that is not the obvious purpose for the phrase, but that happens with other sayings out there.

Sorry that I confused you. :S

And I have agreed with everyone here about OP not contacting the doctor as he wrote everything would be handled without ever needing to call or email him again. And yes, he could take legal action against her.

Sorry, i don't know your full history with this T so maybe I am missing some important details, but that letter is condescending, paternalistic, shaming, childish, and ridiculous. It sounds like he is throwing a fit, because he does not have the equanimity and competence to handle the situation. He probably feels like a failure and so is lashing out in anger, dumping the blame on you.

I see absolutely no acknowledgement that he might have failed in any way. What an utter dickhead. There is no compassion, just a lot of overbearing and authoritarian shouting and barking of orders.

So so many Ts fail to see that the very setup of therapy, and their own behavior, provokes in some clients intense neediness, and addictive clinging, to such an extent that the client simply cannot cope and might even be caught in traumatic flashbacks or abandonment panic. And when this happens and the T cannot handle it, they act like the client is some sort of spoiled or naughty child and impose punitive and shaming boundaries. This idiot needs to read a book on attachment theory and PTSD. He outlines the very responses a client would have in this situation, and then fails to connect the dots.

And ending therapy without giving the client a chance to speak is not only unethical, it is insane and dangerous. Might as well take the client to the edge of a cliff and shove them off.