Struggling to find a good fit

After a bad match with my last therapist, I'm back to searching for a new one. Unfortunately, few in the area are taking patients, and even fewer meet the criteria of my insurance.

I feel like i chase away anyone I reach out to. I give them a call (which is excruciatingly difficult due to my anxiety around talking to new people), or send an email, briefly explaining what my biggest struggles are and what I have found useful in the past (specifically, what my child/youth therapist did that was helpful, before i sadly aged out of the youth system), and out of the fifty or so therapists I have reached out to, ONE was taking patients (and sadly turned out to be a horrible match for me), and only half a dozen returned my call or email saying they were not taking patients.

What else is there to do besides hope that someone will take pity on me and get back to me with good news?

I can't be much help. I have had the same issues. I am going to a support group tomorrow night and I an hoping eventually there might be recommendations from people there.

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The Skeezyks gave up on therapists some time ago... But best wishes for success with your search, BearWithMe...

I'm having the same problem. My T of 5 1/2 years retired back in November, and I haven't found a "good enough" replace my yet. I don't know if I ever will or if I will just stop therapy. I did one month with an AWFUL T who actually tried to file a complaint against my ex-T for choosing to stay in touch and have coffee with me since she retired. Luckily, I was able to stop this woman from going after my ex-T but it made me terrified of ever talking about my ex-T to a new T. What I actually needed at that time was a T to help me grieve my loss and just let me mourn the ending of a really wonderful T relationship-- and instead she tried to prevent my ex-T from staying in my life and making that transition less painful by knowing that she wasn't just going to walk away and shut the door. The reason I had gone into therapy in the first place was for abandonment issues that stemmed from not having a mom-- do it was really important and "special" that my T chose to stay in touch. Anyway, since then, I have done 2 sessions with another new T who is "okay" but kind of annoying and doesn't "get me"'at all. I'm going to at least give it one more session, but it's really frustrating that she keeps making me answer all these questionnaires and starts offering advice that doesn't apply to me at all and just seems kind of like a brick wall. I'm not really sure if I will be able to get anything out of therapy with her, but she's the only one who called me back. And I called more than 50 therapists over the last seven months!! I can't believe it's been seven months of searching, and the "best" that I have found just doesn't feel like a fit. Not sure if I'm going to keep at it or quit. I don't "need" therapy but I do really miss having a safe space to talk.