[scorpiosis37]

I posted on this topic last month when I was deciding whether or not to stop therapy (I stopped). For me, I knew it was the right decision when I got to the point that if felt like therapy was detracting from my life. After my wonderful long-term therapist retired last year, seeing a series of "meh" therapists was useless. In fact, it was worse than useless. It was taking up valuable time that could be used to finish my book, prepare my lectures, see family/friends, or simply relax. I realized I was getting frustrated and upset every time I would go to therapy because the therapist was so off-base. For instance, I would come to session with my energy drink (water with Super HD powder) because I do my weight lifting training right afterwards. Yet, she seemed to be convinced that I was an alcoholic. In reality, I don't drink at all because it would interact with the medicine I'm taking for my ovarian cysts. I told her exactly what my drink was, but she just kind of glared at me out of the corner of her eye like she didn't believe me. It was so invalidating, but also not even worth my time trying to bring her back to reality. It felt like I was doing more work trying to correct her, and educate her, than she was doing to actually conduct therapy. After 4 sessions with her, I made a list of pros and cons and I couldn't think of a single pro other than "she shows up on time." I knew it was time for me to quit, and I think it's the best decision I've made in a long time. I also think choosing do therapy with my old, long-term T was one of the best decisions I've ever made. Building a relationship with her was absolutely fantastic and I still see benefits from the work I did with her. I've also noticed that, since quitting therapy, I've had one of the most productive months of my life. My productivity and creativity at work are through the roof. I feel energized, focused, centered, and happy. Not having therapy hanging over my head and taking up mental space has freed up so much room for other things and it has caused me to reach out more to my dad to process my thoughts. We've started talking almost every day and I really enjoy updating him on my book progress and whatever else I'm doing each day. At least for the next year, I'm happy to be out of therapy.