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Tonight in session I felt unheard and misunderstood. I wondered was it the way I communicate things to t as often she perceives it different to how I am describing. I just have up in the end and cut off contact with her. She asked what was happening and I told her that she didn't understand and wasn't even trying. She said she gets frustrated when I throw all of my toys out of the pram and throw a tantrum and she copied the way I did it, it looked nothing like me and she said I reminded her of a child so then I really gave up.
I was disappointed that I can't see a way forward with her and a part off knows that it's over. When I get mad with my parents they just ignore me, they change the subject and no one ever wants to see me when I get angry and it felt like t can't contain my anger. I told her this was hopeless, she asked me to say I felt hopeless so I said I do in this situation with her. T said she cares about me and wants to try understand me but I felt it was too little too late. I said she wasn't even trying with me only trying to change me. T looked really upset and said she was sorry. I think she knows she messed up but I can't carry her guilt around this. She did mess up and it bloody hurts that she really doesn't help me at times. I would really like her to tell me she can see why I am angry and hurt right now but she didn't, she said but that wouldn't change anything and I said it would because I would feel like you were trying to understand me and hearing me, all of me and not just the parts you want to hear from. I am just feeling really sad right now and please don't blame my t, or bash my t. I think I just need a little kindness and understanding if anyone has any to offer I would be really grateful Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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It can be so difficult not to feel or to be seen or heard, especially if that is how you are used to feeling. I know I am in therapy to be seen and heard, all of me, just like you. Sorry you aren't finding that right now.
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I hope you are finding it in your own therapy? If so, how does it feel! I think this is where my healing lies and t thinks differently. Thank you for hearing me ![]() Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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On and off with the new T. I felt it so much with Old T and it was truly healing. It was as if she really understood me, because she listened, put herself in my shoes etc. At the moment I am trying to forget that to be honest and work with new T. I think I am still a little closed to her responses to me and maybe that is why I do not feel it as greatly, or maybe she just isn't as good at that as old T. I don't know. All I know is that it is so very difficult to feel like you don't have a place somewhere.
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What happened with your old t that you stopped seeing her? I don't mean to open any old wounds or trigger anything but I am curious as to why you moved to a new t when your relationship with old t sounded very healing
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Its OK. She worked for a charity. I started seeing her when I lost my Mum but could not continue because the charity did not fund the long term work we both knew, deep down, was required. I think we were both very sad about that but she has left the door open in case this does not work out with new T. I will never be able to do this work with her but she will always be there for me if I need some help while I find someone who can. But, I believe that this is possible with New T and, when I am able to accept that I can't work with old T, maybe I will see her again just to catch up every once in a while. She said that would be OK. But for now, to see her would be too difficult.
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She doesn't seem to " hear " you she shows you what it looks like. I can imagine how that feels. It must be frustrating. I did some work with my T last night that had him sitting forward in his chair along these lines , he gets it. I'm sorry you're not finding it with your T.
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That sounds dreadful, MLS. I'm really sorry this is happening
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Mona, I'm very sorry you're feeling so sad and frustrated with your therapy. It sounds like you're disappointed too, which is understandable. I hope that you will find a T who understands you better. You do deserve that. I'm not blaming your T. I just think the fit wasn't right.
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Sending hugs your way,Mona😊😊😊😊. Take a trip across the pond and let's go to the beach🌴🌴🌴🏊🏊🏊
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I am very sorry that you feel you can't do the work with your new t. It sounds like you and your old t had a very special bond. It sounds like it take a while for you to accept that you can't do the work with old t and perhaps this is preventing you from developing a relationship with new t. It sounds very painful ![]() Quote:
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Oh that sounds lovely because it's July, windy and lashing rain here 1step. T would say how am I depressing myself but sometimes the outside environment plays a big part. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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