The Couch 119: Come Join The Human Shelf!

I wish No. 3 would take a vocabulary-building course. I keep having to define words for her, like "gist."

Interesting article I thought:
Detach from your own guilt. Parents need permission to accept themselves as “good enough” parents, Boorn says....

“The best thing we can do for our (adult) children is to calm ourselves down and accept they have a journey to take and that we must trust them to take that journey on their own,” Boorn says.
Forbes Welcome

Ho can you possibly know that? It is well-known (through much research in the area) that people who are dissatisfied (with a service, with a product they have bought, with a meal, with a hotel, with a spouse) are more likely to express their opinion than people who are satisfied or those who have no opinion. It has furthermore been shown many times (through research in areas closely related to my own field) that on anonymous online forums, negative emotions are expressed much more candidly and frequently than positive or neutral emotions - hence trolling and various forms of online harassment. Thus it makes no sense to believe that this one forum, catering primarily to North Americans, populated overwhelmingly by people of one biological gender in terms of those who post, should be somehow representative for all clients of psychotherapy everywhere, including the majority who have never visited a psychotherapy forum in their lives.

And that's fine, there is no reason why it ought to be representative. Each individual person's experience is equally valid anyway, whether it is positive or negative (yes, I know that not everybody agrees with me about this) and each individual is going to be different from the general population in many ways, so what most people in a population do or think is never particularly relevant in terms of what you or I as individuals do or think.

Of course a lot of people shut up and go and do something different when they are dissatisfied. But none of us will ever know how many people do that, and so it is an irrelevant unknown variable in this equation.

You and I will never agree about therapists or therapy.

And I actually do think this is representative of people who seek out therapists. I believe a lot are silent just because it did not work and they went on to do something else.

Oh, that email's already been sent.

Their language is deliberately indirect and self-absolving to my mind; it would do them good to talk like the rest of us do in relationships.

I would be homicidal at that ********.

holy schmoly well I shall likely not venture off the couch for a good while now. damn sam f--- a rug, put a fork in me I'm done.

Wow. Just, wow.

I'm sorry you gave in, but I'm glad it's not too bad. Next time you have an urge, maybe try talking to someone close to you. That helps me. I talk to my mom and then I usually don't end up doing it.

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Art if it helps I am not taking another thread very well either I tried my best now staying away from it is what I should do. Hugs!! And patience to us both

Why do you hide food?

Why can't I keep my big mouth shut. At the end off session I just mentioned to T that the other week, when we were sitting at his desk, I noticed he had nowhere to hide his food. I then had to explain that my desk is where I hide my food as he thought he may have had food out on his desk. Well, he became very attentive and scribbked something down. So I wouldn't be surprised if this is a topic next session. Honestly I thought everyone hid food...Don't they? He wanted to know why I hadn't mentioned it before. I didn't think it was a problem.

Um... well... not everybody hides food. I don't, for instance.

Um... well... not everybody hides food. I don't, for instance.