Feeling rejected by therapist (too) two

Hence somebody else posted about feeling rejected by therapist I decided to post my own thread since I have been feeling the same way and don't want to derail hers.

I moved last year to a different state and one of the conditions was that I could email my ex therapist and update her. I have been really good about not using her for a sounding board or bothering her too often. I update her maybe every four or five months. She told me before I left that she would respond if I wrote her which she has for the most part except this time. I emailed her about a week ago and haven't heard anything. I know she got it because it shows on the app that it was opened.

Now I am thinking she doesn't want to respond to me anymore and I am feeling rejected. I wish it didn't bother me so much but it does. In a lot of ways I am doing so much better mentally. I haven't needed all the therapy down here like I have in the past. I am only going on an as needed basis. My mood has been so much better which I think the sun has helped.

I was hoping it wouldn't bother me not to hear from her but it does. I have been having a low week anyway and this isn't helping.

All I can say is I am feeling exactly the same if that helps in any way.

I didn't know there's an app that shows when someone opens an email! Maybe she read it and didn't have timeto answer immediately, and accidentally deleted it. Maybe she's extremely busy or on vacation. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that she doesn't want to hear from you or answer you. I would give her another week and then write again, asking if she received that email. If she agreed to email, then I wouldn't worry. I do know how easy it is to jump to conclusions and feel rejected. I'd feel the same way.

I would give her some time to answer and thing if she doesn't then I would bring irbil in session. It is easier to jump to the conclusion that they dont want to answer for whatever reason. I would definitely bring it up and have her clarify things so that you know what to expect.

I can't bring it up to her because I am in a different state. We agreed to keep in email contact on the program they used to use where I live. I know I have a tendency to jump to conclusions though. It isn't really an app. It is a program that this certain clinic used and you can see if your messages have been read and opened and they are only addressed to certain clinicians so it is not like everyone can read them. The agreement was if i wrote she would respond which she usually has but this time she hasn't. I was finding myself missing her and wrote her but oh well.

That sounds so frustrating. Hopefully she is overwhelmed with work and clients and she hasn't had a chance to respond as of yet. I know this doesn't help your case because the frustration and aggravation is still there. Sometimes I wish that some of these therapists could experience what we experience. I guess some have had therapy before so they might have experienced it as well. It's easy to draw conclusions from these types of situation.

That does sound frustrating. I hope that she gets back to you... it sounds like she's been good at responding in the past?

If she doesn't... I'd totally write again and check it out with her. Like others said, ask if she got the message and let her know that you didn't hear anything back. She may have gotten interrupted, had an emergency, or just had a lousy day and forgotten. Or, she may have written back and it could have gotten lost in cyberspace (yes, I know that it sounds crazy! But it happens, I've had someone send me 2 emails in a row... and only the 2nd came through! I would never have known, except he referenced the first, and I was confused and emailed him back).

There's nothing wrong with writing back to ask if the message made it through! It's a good way to find out what actually happened. I find that, if someone has been consistent and respectful with me since I've known them, then when something like this happens, there's usually a good reason (i.e. it's not that they suddenly don't want to talk to you anymore).

Hang in there... I hope you hear from her soon!

This sounds very painful and frustrating, I am sure it is not a rejection and there is a good explanation for her not responding yet. Perhaps she has been away and got an email notification and just glanced but not read your email.
It's hard not to jump to the worst case scenario, we all do it but please don't hurt yourself by thinking the worst

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