T called me on Saturday

So I left T a message Friday evening that I was upset. I said that if he was still in (can't tell since he can't answer his phone if he's with a client) to call me back. Otherwise maybe to call me on Monday. He actually called me on Saturday. I was so amazed at that. I talked to him on the phone for around 20 minutes. I've never done that before. Usually if he calls I talk for a few seconds and then tell him I don't want to keep him. This time when I tried to pull away he told me to stop worrying about what he needs, that he had called me back because he wanted to. So I kept talking to him, and the conversation eventually ended naturally. I'm so glad he was there. I wished later that it could have been today instead of yesterday because yesterday evening was so painful. I'm having a terrible time and feel like I'm dying inside. I'm so glad T was there. I'm really dependent on him right now, and he wants me to be. So it's good. I wish I could see him twice a week right now though that'd be hard while I'm unemployed. I might try it anyway though.

Sidony

Hey Sid, I'm glad he called you back! It's the little things that T's do that mean so much

Now you are exactly where i would like to be relationship-wise... but sadly we already are in the same boat employment-wise.

i am sorry you're having a hard time... i don't know what is happening but i honestly send good thoughts your way.

it is a wonderful and touching thing that he cares that much and he is giving the help you need on your need level. i am trying so hard with my T... i hope we can get to where you are.

It sounds like your T is a very caring supportive person. I am glad you have found him. Take care.

BB

Thanks all.

Gerber, I'm sorry about your unemployment too. It sure is hard. As to what else is going on with me, it's dealing with seeing my ex-love with someone new. So heartbreaking and so hard to deal with on top of everything else. And naturally it's a relationship that I screwed up for all the reasons I'm in therapy now....



Sidony

hey, remember, it takes two right? It can't succeed or fail due to just one person... period. i don't know what your roles were, but he can't have been perfect. It's his loss IMO.

Sid, first of all, I'm sorry that you are feeling so bad. I remember you telling me that you normally aren't prone to depression, so this must suck so, so much for you.

That's great that he called you on a Saturday. A 20-minute conversation! He's welcoming your dependence on him, and he should be--- because you are using your relationship with him as a healthy way to cope. It know that it feels horrible to need so badly... but sometimes you just have to let yourself accept that it's okay to need.

I hope you are doing ok today.

awe - sidony!! i'm so glad you had such a comforting experience with your T!!

OK - so what's with all of us being unemployed!!!

we may have to start a "Yikes, I'm unemployed" forum if we all keep this up!!!!!!!