Should I Go?

Well. my T- she is a wonderful wonam.

i went to her for treatment in April 2003 and the while thing lasted about 8 months i think.

since then we keep in touch.

i was invited to her house, and when her 2 grandchildren were born i went to the ceremonies there.
and on holidays i her..we visit each other on birthdays and give presents ot each other...

i kept coming for sort of "sessions" something like once in 4, 6 months. sometimes i would call her. or she calls me.

so yesterday i called her to ask her how she is doing, becasue she is going to have a surgery (damn did i SPELL IT RIGHT? sorry) and she said that nothings is new, next week she is goung to have that surgury (maybe like that ) next week and then we talked about something else and she asked me if i wanted to come to a meeting with her.

i told her that i am fine (heck, MORE than just fine! )
and that it`s all positive
and she said she knows, and that it mustn`t be something bad...and that`s only if i want. she doesn`t see a NEED.

she is a wonderful woman

E.S I LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
YOU ARE HEALING YOU ARE SO GOOD...YOU ARE AMAZING!!!!



****** i don`t know why the spell chekc is making trouble that`s why i am not sure how to spell surgury sorry
as some of you may know English is not my native languege

i hope this doesn't sound unsupportive somehow... but it seems to be that as wonderful as she may be, she has crossed and significantly blurred the boundaries. She has become more your friend than your therapist and that is not the way things should work for a healthy T-client relationship. It's not a sexual thing so i assume it's less risky (my assumption) but the power dynamic is still there no matter what. It's not equal, as friends or anything else. She should know this. A relationship as friends would be difficult to be fair really.. but she certainly should not be your therapist at this point.

i am sorry if this has been hurtful in any way.

Im not sure I understand this. Are you asking if you should go to T? If thats the question then I suppose the answer is......................... you should only go if you feel you need to.

You said that she invited you to a meeting. I am under the impression that this is a reference to a session. I can't see how she can be your T and your friend. Is the T part of the relationship still active? It almost sounds like she was your T and then you became friends. What would be the agenda if you had a session with her? (don't tell me but I'd want to know if she had invited me) I feel that sessions are intended to help you with something not just a get together. So, do you have something to work on with her?
I hope you figure out what you want/need to do.

you are right guys she is more of a FRIEND to me!
but it started happening only AFTER we ended the sessions-the REAL session i NEEDED when i came ot her with depression,SI...it came all afterwards

i feel more qual ot her.

we would share self help stuff. she gave me ot read passages form all those books she had and that i came and gave to her the "Tao Te Ching, Kittie Bayron and Self reliance artice.

i was just curiouse as to what you would say

gender-youdon`t hurt me. don`t worry.

i DO go thorught a lot and need to lalk about it.but it`s not bad. it`s just that i keep developing....

not exactly a NEED but a want for sure....
eh, i know......?