[WanderingBark]

I know many of us on here struggle with not getting everything we want from our T's for various reasons...but I wanted to start a thread that will help us remember that while we haven't always gotten what we want, we (hopefully) get what we need.

This thread is dedicated to all the moments (big and small) when your T made you feel like you were their entire world, healed you, held you, loved you.

I'll start: despite my T not being a morning person (bless his heart), he scheduled an 8am phone session for me (two whole hours before the office officially opens)

[stopdog]

Has not happened to me. I don't want it. So - perhaps the good part is that the woman is cold and distant which is what I look for in them.

[growlycat]

I thanked long term t for speaking to new t about how to best work with me. In my email to long term t I told him that new t picked up on the fact that old t is like w surrogate parent to me. In a return email long term t said "it has been my privilege ". I'm not tearing up. Nope.

I criticize my T a lot, but I do want to acknowledge the many things she has done for me in the service to my well-being. She does her best to get past my prickly defenses to expose the pain below, even though it's unpleasant for her and I hurt her feelings every session. (I'm not proud of being a difficult client. :/ )

I was struggling to remember an therapy agreement we had, so I asked her over the phone to please write it down to give me. I later texted confessing that I wanted the written reminder to be a transitional object. The next session, I thought/assumed she'd forgotten about it because we were wrapping up the session. I tentatively asked and she informed me that she had not forgotten, but wanted us to craft the words together so it would be more memorable and more personal. I felt very...loved.

[ilikecats]

While I'm disappointed that my T won't hug me like I want, I have a lot to be grateful for. She did hug me once, which was amazing. She also high fives me. She's gone over our usual 45 minutes sometimes, and I think once she even spent 90 minutes with me. She does do outside contact, and I've spoke to her on the phone quite a bit. There was one week when I was really struggling and she spoke to me each night. When we talk on the phone the amount of time varies. Sometimes it's as long as 25 minutes. She has also spoken to my mom with my permission. She visited me in the hospital. She told me she loves me, and I can tell that she really does. She bought beads and made bracelets with me. She made me a playlist. She gave me her necklace. She got Monopoly so we could play it together. She gave me a shell and a rock. She's given me clay and lotion. She's learned new things for me. I'm sure there's more she's done for me that I just can't think of right now. But I'm very grateful to have found my T, as she is truly amazing. I hope everyone can find a T that they are as happy with as I am with mine. I know I'm very lucky to have found such a great person to be my T.

[junkDNA]

hmm.. so many things. too many to remember them all!! staying over at the house i was at one night to make sure i was safe. coming to my house to check on me. giving me a stuffed animal as a transitional object. giving me other gifts. hugging me. talking to me at 3am. driving me to another city to sit with me during a lawsuit mediation. taking me out to lunch to celebrate something. going to a training with me in another state. calling me every night at one point to help me take my meds and distract me from the voices. telling me hhe was resigning from the treatment facility i was in, but telling me he isnt going to abandon me, and taking me to his new private practice with him. meeting with me at that time even though he didnt even have an office.

the biggest thing for me, though, is that he hasnt given up on me.

[Out There]

The day I started to think the joke was on me..... And he proved that it wasn't.

[itjustis]

The way she held me when I was having my first anxiety attack and I was terrified because I didn't know what was going on. That made me feel very safe and cared for.

The best thing was when I wrote him a poem and he asked whether he could put it on his wall and let others see it (anonymously). I said yes and I was very, very touched.

[bounceback]

I ended up in the intensive care and my therapist at the time called to see how I was doing. I had another whom I shared something important with in therapy and she called later to check in with me. I had another who would stay later in the evening so I could see her after work. Many other things too numerous to mention

[nottrustin]

She has been there in so many ways. One afternoon after a couple of sleepless nights and being exhausted i took a small handful of my sleep meds. After a few minutes I freaked out and told my husband. He didn't know what to do so I told him to call T. After getting my verbal consent, she told him what to do. She told him to have the ER doctor call her and she would discuss it with them. We both feared they would think it was a suicide attempt. She spoke to the doctor a couple of times. The doctor discarged me because of talking to T and she agreed to see me the next day. She does not see clients on the weekend but she saw me in Sunday.

[Loco4]

We celebrated my birthday one day! She had party food and we listened to Cher. We sat on the floor and made me a birthday card and played games. She was so thoughtful and kind.

[ScarletPimpernel]

My T went above and beyond trying to help me with ex-T. She called her and emailed her. She tried to get me my letter, tangible object, and answers. She even tried to set up a phone conversation for all of us. Lastly, she helped me write my letter to the board of psychology. And even though she became the "bad guy" for awhile, she stayed strong and consistent with me and never gave up.

[SheHulk07]

The biggest thing that T1 did for me was to not give up on me after 3 years of dealing with me. That meant so much to me. Or to be more flexible with his boundaries than he'd do with other clients when it came to contacting him.

[kecanoe]

Fit me in schedule when it meant skipping lunch. Check in with me when I ask. Take time to text or call. Buy me a teddy bear and give other transitional objects. Extra sessions. Been willing to follow other ts lead, let them do the real treatment while he supports; not been all defensive about it, encourages it. No ego. Willing to admit when he goofs up, usually realizes it himself and always makes amends. 9 1/2 years of holding steady, to the point where I actually am pretty sure he will. Always kind when I don't want to leave. Buys the kind of coffee I like.

[1stepatatime]

She...
Never gets angry with me
Is very patient with me
Hugged me
Held me in her arms once, even though I was not sure how to accept her love
Tells me she is always with me.
After all of this I STILL question (at times)how she feels about me!

[kecanoe]

Originally Posted by 1stepatatime

She...
Never gets angry with me
Is very patient with me
Hugged me
Held me in her arms once, even though I was not sure how to accept her love
Tells me she is always with me.
After all of this I STILL question (at times)how she feels about me!

Yeah, me too. Sigh.

[WanderingBark]

Last session, T told me I'll never be forgotten

[kecanoe]

t3 makes me feel safe enough to deal with whatever comes up. She rocks

[therapyishelping777]

There are so many times I'm on the way over to T's and thinking no way can I share this, I'm too anxious, too sad, I don't want him to see me as a basketcase, (like I see myself) I remember one week a few weeks ago.. I was crying all the way over because week with family of origin really sucked and super hurtful.. I was thinking...oh no.. I can't go in like this, I don't want to start the session all teary and whatever.. I just felt safe as soon as I walked through the door and let out everything and more and he super came through, and I felt like 10,000 tons lifted by end of session, gave me a lot to carry through my week . Because I have defective/shame schema.. I really think how can my T even stand me.. but he is always compassionate.. and super helpful..