Couch 125 - We shall survive!

Or, better yet, on your way to your therapist, drop him off at the hospital with his overnight bag and tell him to text you with his room number when they admit him.

I'm sorry. I sound like such a witch with a capital B. I'm really not.

No you don't!

i think you sound frustrated with a cry baby husband that you wish would grow up

You sound frustrated, not *****y. Listen, future ex used to drag me to all his medical appointments. I was happy to do it at first, but then it was just getting excessive and the time off was hurting me at work. And a man who's convinced he needs medical treatment but chooses instead to watch a movie...

Your therapy appointment is only half an hour? Don't put it off, dump him at urgent care and tell him you'll be back in an hour.

Agree with this!!!

And agree with this, too! Just drop him off and tell him you'll be back.

Art, if it were me, I'd say that for every time he pulled something like that, I would schedule an extra therapy session for the week. (He's done this before, if I recall correctly.)

I'm sorry, but you're like a star therapy goer. We need you to represent.

Thanks y'all. I summoned my inner Queen like t is always telling me to do and told him if he wants me to go, we're going this evening. And walked away. It's his decision now.

Yay Art!

Attagirl.

I love how H knows exactly what the problem is because of what happened last time there was a clog. And he refuses to try to fix it himself, because what if he tries, and we have to call the plumber anyway (he's coming out tomorrow morning). And he said the plumber would have to snake it out like last time. And I said we could also buy those snakes at the hardware store, and he was all, "Fine, do you want me to do that tomorrow morning?" Of course I had to say no... yeah, we'll just pay the $150 or whatever...

ok. we're going now. status update later.

Miss you guys!! I keep seeing the updates coming on my phone and can't read or respond.

Just wanted to say thank you for being there. Monkey circus going on here. The alerts make me less stressed.

Happy Thanksgiving. Planning a baby reveal event tomorrow. Too much drama!!

Can you take a video of the plumber doing the repair so you can use it for the next time it happens, and then do it yourself?

I've been eating too much sugar.

Many men were raised to assume sole responsibility for handyman tasks. If you offer him advice before he asks for it, he takes that as criticism of a core competency. And it's worse if he really is having trouble.

You say, "I found this suggestion on the internet."
He hears, "You're not much of a man."

He said he'd watch him this time so he'd know for next time. Maybe this is frustrating partly because my dad did try to do things himself. And the fact that H doesn't even seem to want to try (he did make a few feeble attempts to unscrew the one pipe, but was all "It's not coming off) bothers me. Yeah, I know, I could try to do it myself, but it is still technically his house, so I feel like if I insist I can do it, then mess it up, I wouldn't hear the end of it...

I don't understand what you are apologising for.

Hm, hadn't thought of that aspect... (we're in our late 30s, incidentally). He does seem really offended if I offer him advice on fixing anything, like his computer, car, etc. Which frustrates me, because I'm trying to help, not be critical. So, hm, maybe if I think of it this way...

And now H just slipped going down our hardwood stairs and was angry because I asked too quickly if he was OK. Because he didn't know yet. It was more do I need to call 911? He's up and walking around and still mad at me.

Me too - but I figure it just makes us sweeter!

oh good lord Your H needs to calm the eff down! Sheesh. I'd be super PISED if anyone told me to shut the eff up. ugh.

and art's H needs to grow up. I am a slight hypochondriac, but I wouldn't act like he does.

Yeah, your H would annoy me to no end, Art. I drove myself to the hospital in someone else's F350 with a broken arm. I could not handle dealing with someone like your H in a close relationship.

I actually hate it when people try to help me if I have not asked for their help. I am more like - you can do it if you want but if you want me to handle it, then leave me alone to take care of it in my own way. More like - you can take care of it or I will take care of it but I won't take care of it by having you tell me how to do it.

And I don't like people asking if I am okay too soon because I don't know - I am busy seeing if I am okay and haven't got the patience to deal with others until I know the answer. My partner and I have had fights about that -she wants to rush in and take care of me too quickly - and I just want her to stay the eff back until I say I might could use some help.