Well I have a session with my therapist for this evening, I'm kinda neverous but excited to go again. Despite weekly visits it feels like a life time away from my T I'm sure you all can relate. I have a note that I need to finish,...but should I give it to her? Its things that'd be extremely hard to say,..but I wrote them down...what do you think would she care?

I e-mailed her friday,...she got back,...gosh am I bugging her to much? First it was my poetry, then a story, then an e-mail, and now a letter....i'm so scared she'll get mad,..i like her lots and trust her after a short period of time...what should I do?

Dustin

[pegasus]

Go with it! Moonkin.

No, T won't get fed up, she would say something to you otherwise.

It's good to share what you can with T, sometimes it's hard to come out and say it so writing things down is a good idea.

I know how it is to feel nervous or apprehensive before therapy, hope it goes well for you.

[bipolar_bear]

I think your t will be fine with your letter. If you can talk to your T about what type and frequency of communication is all right with her. If you can't tell her directly maybe put that in your letter too? Or write another just about that?

I understand your nervousness about T especially now that you found someone you like so much.

BB

[Cheri]

Sounds like you've written a lot of things she needs to know in order to be more helpful. If you're not comfortable discussing them right now, then a letter is the way to go. At least you're communicating with her, right? I'll bet your new T would welcome the information.

I also agree that you might want to ask how much communication is okay, if for no other reason than to reduce your anxiety.

Ty all for sharing your opinions it made me feel really good about today's future session =). I will tell you how it went.

Dustin

Whenever I contact my T outside of session, I feel bad. I start to feel like he's going to get annoyed and tell me not to call anymore. In order to feel better about this, I discussed boundaries with my T. It ended up that basically there are none in regards to calling him. It was kinda weird because there's nothing besides myself to limit how much I call him outside of session. When I'm feeling really bad, I may have to call him once in between sessions for a few weeks in a row. He will tell me that if I need to call more than once to check in, that's alright too. So even though it's weird to not have a boundary, it really helped to discuss it and know where I stand so I can reach out to T without that anxiety. I hope you have a great session today.

[sunrise]

I think sharing the letter is fine. You are early in therapy, like in the flush of new love, and you want your T to understand you. It's actually really great you are so willing to share so much so soon! I bet she is overjoyed. Go with it! Good luck.

[WinterRose]

It can be hard risking when you like your T so much. I too get worried that I'll be cast off if I 'bug' them too much. Usually, when it's brought up, they will give you guidance on what is ok and what is not. Since you haven't discussed it yet, I'm sure she won't be angry even if you did go a little overboard - but it doesn't sound like you have to me. I especially think the letter is a good idea and a good step forward in therapy.

[drummergrl]

Hey Dustin: Good luck! I hope you get what you want from this, but bear in mind that it may not come to that yet???? I'm not trying to be negative, but I don't want you to get hurt if she doesn't "respond" to your liking??? Take care and be careful not to stress her out over it. What is it you're looking for Dustin???? Talk about your boundaries, and what's expected of you. Tell her what your needs are and if she can provide for you. Generally speaking, therapy provides a very warm, safe place for you to vent feelings of aggression, fear, disappointment, grief, and so on.....and a therapist does usually provide the tools for you to use.....just bear in mind they don't get PERSONAL.....don't mistake compassion with love. It doesn't turn out like that.
Once you two come to an understanding, your work together will get much more relaxed and easier. YOu won't want to cry so much to convince her you need her. She knows you have needs by the fact that you're in there!!!