i am so very depressed. i am thinking of taking a break from therapy. Whatever is causing me to feel so depressed is biological although not my BP... this is different. It's not something that my T can really help me with. So i am considering a break... what can my T do when i am like this? i have nothing to say because i am too tired.

do you guys think it would be better for me to hold off on therapy for when i am less depressed?

[sunrise]

gerber, it's hard to say. Can you discuss it with your therapist and ask whether he/she can offer you anything to help you either cope with or get rid of your depression? Sometimes psychotherapy can really help depression. I had major depression and dealt with some of its symptoms with my CBT counselor and finally sent it packing with the help of my current humanistic therapist. If your therapist doesn't think he/she can help you with depression, can you ask him what he/she would suggest? Stop psychotherapy? Try psychotherapy with another therapist who can help with depression? Try meds? Meds + psychotherapy? Alternative therapies? Maybe you've tried all these. Just tossing out ideas...

Good luck. Sorry you are feeling so down.

[amuseable]

Gerber I can so relate to how you are feeling. I often have feelings of hopelessness about therapy and T. However, keep in mind that the depression itself might be engendering much of that sense of hopelessness. I would talk and talk and talk some more about it with your T before even considering making a break. It may be the depression talking. I do not know and probably neither do you. (((((GERBER))))))

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what can my T do when i am like this? i have nothing to say because i am too tired.

do you guys think it would be better for me to hold off on therapy for when i am less depressed?

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Gerber, this is exactly, exactly what I went through during the last couple of weeks. I used the same exact phrase as you in session: "I'm just too tired to say anything." I told him I had no mental or emotional energy to even begin to talk about anything. Most sessions were dominated by silence. However, when I finally came back around (two sessions ago) to being able to feel something again, we were able to process the "dead" session. And the most significant thing was that my T told me that he realized that as depressed and resistant as I was being, that was me. And he had to let me be where I was at in the here-and-now. So he got to see the true me at that moment, right there in session. He said that it only strengthened our connection. Please, please don't quit therapy. Even though you don't feel like talking, you really do need him right now. Even for him to just sit with you through the feelings. And you never know when things will start to come out... Let yourself stay wity him so that he's there when you're ready. Stick with it.