[sunrise]

Yesterday I had therapy and afterwards, I had second thoughts about a course of action we'd discussed in session. So last night I emailed T with my misgivings. I have never emailed him before! He doesn't put his email on his business cards and has never invited me to email him. Anyway, within an hour and a half, he emailed me back a reassuring message. This made me so happy. I would have felt terrible if he didn't respond. Such a risk for me to do this small thing, but it worked out well.

awwwwwwwwwwwww that so great, sunrise!!!!

[confused4ever]

(((((((((sunrise))))))))))

So happy for you!! Kudos for taking that step!

[MissCharlotte]

Congrats. A huge step forward.

[MyBestKids2]

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congratulations...all seemed to work out well in the end

Hey, that's big. And wonderful when it works out favorably. I know how hard it is that first time when you contact T outside of session.... I still have a really hard time doing it (by phone) even though I've done so a whole bunch of times.

It's one thing to be in session... But having to confront the "I need you so badly outside of session that I have to contact you" feelings are a whole different story.

[Lemon]

That's great Sunny! It must have felt so nice to have your T respond like that.

[sunrise]

Thanks, everyone!

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It's one thing to be in session... But having to confront the "I need you so badly outside of session that I have to contact you" feelings are a whole different story.

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I never thought of it that way, but bingo!--yes, that is the central fear. I did call him once to talk about a really important issue and that was so hard for me. And his return phone call did not go well. So hard. I've never called him since. So yes, this email was huge and big and all the rest. At face value it seems little and insignicant--hey, I just sent an email, I do that dozens of times a day to all sorts of people. Therapy tends to magnify the importance and significance of everything and allows us to work out the dramas of our existence on a small, (relatively) safe stage. I guess that is one reason it is effective in provoking change in our lives.

Hey, I got all philosophical! Have a great day, everyone.

[lauren_helene]

Good for you Sunny!! I want so much to call my T right now and tell him how wonderful last nights session was for me.

I felt totally protected for the first time in my life. I'm afraid to though because of past attempts. I did call earlier but just to make new appts...

I'm glad you have more courage than me and you got a return email!

[Gracey]

LOL if his email isn't on his card, and he didn't give it to you, how'd you get it?

[sunrise]

Thanks, almedafan. Sounds like a wonderful feeling--to feel totally protected.

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LOL if his email isn't on his card, and he didn't give it to you, how'd you get it?

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Good question, lol. My T is also serving in another professional role for me and sometimes is copied by others and myself on official correspondence related to that role. And sometimes he responds by email to the group in that role. That's how I got his address. But I have never emailed him as a therapist with personal, therapy-related concerns, and he has never told me I could do this (or that I couldn't--just hasn't ever been discussed between us). So I just took a chance and did it anyway, and it worked out well.