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#26
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Very sorry to hear about your grandfather.
I have never had a T I was in contact with outside of sessions. My current T is the closest I have come, she will actually chat for a couple of minutes when she calls me back to reschedule etc. If I leave a message with her office about an issue she will ask about it. |
#27
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My t encourages me to text between weekly sessions....it took me several YEARS to believe I could feel comfortable enough to.
Usually once a week (or none); she always replies but only with short acknowledgment or encouragement, no big conversations. |
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#28
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Can you go back to sessions twice a week? When you saw her that often, did you still feel the need to email? If not, that's one solution. Would your T let you email without her replying? That's another option. When I tried, due to my T's suggestion, not to email at all, I posted on here more. It was hard, but I managed. One day at a time. I talked with a couple of close friends more, too. However, my T didn't forbid emailing. She left it up to me. So now, I email when I have the need. It seems to work. Last week I emailed once and she responded. This week I didn't email at all! I wish your T wouldn't totally forbid it. It's better when you are the one making the decision, not T. I hope it works out for you. |
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#29
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I don't contact my T between sessions. For me it would be very strange and rude to text or call him... He's not my friend, i only pay for one hour a week, i have no rights to bother him between session.
Of course i miss him very much, but i have to deal with it... |
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#30
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Everyone's therapy is different, but there are some styles of therapy that welcome or encourage between-session contact. It's been one of the most helpful aspects of my therapy. |
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#31
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Don't want free reign to contact my proc. If I did I would never learn to cope on my own, I would just keep snivvling down the phone saying "I can't do it..." then we would wind up talking over the same old issue over again. When in fact more often than not these things I can actually resolve myself if I have no other option.
Then I feel AWESOME! Cos I did it! I did it! ![]() Then I tell the doc, and he gets all smug and says, "Told you you could" Eugh, *eyeroll*
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#32
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Its not cold, its boundary setting at its best. Your therapist set a boundary and is enforcing it. You always have the choice to find another therapist. But to me, to be told of a therapist's policies from day one and then complain about them later shows that you are not good with abiding by boundaries set by other people. I think that you should focus on abiding by boundaries, and not put focus on trying to change a therapist's policies (which are there for a reason.) |
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I can relate. It is perfectly normal to need that out of session contact especially in cases such as yours. The humane thing for any person to do would be to acknowledge what you're going back through and to at least Respond even with a few words. It doesn't have to be a full blown out conversation. I think that some Ts feel that out of session contact will become into an additional session. Although this might be true for
Some people it's not the case in most. During difficult times in between sessions it's normal for clients to need additional contact. My T was okay with text and email and then I would like to say that she grew tired of it. I was going through major difficulties at the time and the one a week session was nowhere near enough with what I was going through outside of sessions. Needless to say it's difficult not having contact outside of session. I still have that issue and I just started therapy again. I learned to internalize my feelings but now I let no one into my world because I feel like I'm a nuisance to everyone. So I adjusted differently and every time I feel like contacting her j remember that she doesn't get paid for it and she's busy with other clients and family matters. I give her space. this was the end result of the no contact situation. It's definitely not easy. Last edited by Sarmas; Feb 05, 2017 at 03:07 PM. |
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