[silentlyscreaming]

If you've read any of my earlier posts, you know that I have a love/hate relationship with my therapist......I love to hate her.
I have finally reached breaking point with her.
Last 2 sessions have just been a lot of name calling from both parties, and me walking out after 5 minutes.
I saw my psychiatrist about getting a new therapist, but the only one taking on new patients is my DBT facilitator, so she can't be my individual therapist.
I feel like I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
I feel physically sick as the next ppointment nears. I know even if it doesn't come down to a sceaming match, It'll be her putting me down for an hour, and I can't listn to that #@*! anymore because it's really sticking in my head.

Sorry, just needed to vent.................

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Last 2 sessions have just been a lot of name calling from both parties, and me walking out after 5 minutes.

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I'm concerned.... She was calling you names? This doesn't sound like you are getting any therapeutic benefit whatsoever. I'm so sorry this happening to you.

I too am sorry this is happening.. what you are descibing.. doesn't sound.. theraputic.. if she is name calling....

"rock and a hard spot"... I have been there.. not wanting to go back.. but not being able to find another T...

I had to "bide" my time.. till I found someone else.. which was hard....as you are feeling right now..

[Gracey]

Regardless of your issues. . .it is NEVER ok for a therapist to call you names or "scream" at you.

I'm curious, what did your psychiatrist say when you told him he/she was doing this to you?

[lauren_helene]

I agree with all of the above posts. I'm sorry that she can't handle herself more professionally than that.

[sunrise]

silently, this sounds just terrible. Is there a head of the clinic you can talk to about to verify if this sort of behavior is within their accepted treatment guidelines? It just doesn't sound therapeutic, and in fact, it sounds damaging. I can understand why you don't want to go back. Did your pdoc think this sort of behavior from your therapist was OK?

[silentlyscreaming]

Thanks to everyone for responding.
I've spoken to several people about what's been happening, and they've all come back with pretty much the same response.....that she feels just as frustrated as I do.
Truth be known, I know more about her life than she knows about mine.
More than once people have rushed into her office thinking that things were getting violent.
The name calling and constant put downs never used to bother me, they just made me angry, but as I said, it's really starting to stick in my head.
She's always telling me that I've traumatised her, that I'm manipulative, don't want to get better etc etc.
We can' talk about anything. I once told her that I was feeling suicidal. She laughed and said that I was wasting her time and that if I was going to commit suicide, I would've done it already.....then she couldn't understand why that made me angry.
Anyway, I'll keep trying to fight the system and try and get a new T, I'd simply quit if it wasn't for the fact that I need this.

[bipolar_bear]

I am sorry you have such an unsupportive therapist to say the least. It sounds like the relationship is destructive. I would certainly look around for another therapist. Maybe talk to your DBT facilitator?

BB

why can't the facilitator be your individual therapist? is the facilitator doing the outcome interviews or is the facilitator the group leader? one of the group leaders was my therapist for a time...

sounds like you guys aren't the best fit etc

[pachyderm]

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She's always telling me that I've traumatised her, that I'm manipulative, don't want to get better etc etc.

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Oh oh. You have traumatised her? Don't want to get better?

I have heard this before. I think she needs help. That's OK, but do you feel strong enough to give that to her? While you are paying for the therapy?

[silentlyscreaming]

I have my next T appointment tomorrow afternoon.
I had DBT on Tuesday, but called in Tuesday morning saying I was sick, and wasn't going to be able to make it. I had a head ache so I turned down the phone and went to bed. When I got up, there were 8 msgs on my answering service from her, first saying that she was just checking to see if I was ok, the last was her fiercly stating that if I hadn't contacted her by the end of the working day, she would send the police. That was over 24 hours ago, and there has been no police, and no calls.
I just don't understand what this woman is playing at?!?
I've not gone to DBT in the past, and I've just not turned up, and nothing has been said. This time I did the right thing and this happens!!!!!
The facilitator is the group leader. I have spoken to them about th issues I'm having with my T, they just went and had a ***** session with her, which only made things more complicated.
I know my T is going through a messy divorce and is having problems with her teenage sons, but she shouldn't be bringing that to work.

I dunno, I've had enough..............

I'll let you all know how tomorrow goes............