[SoConfused623]

This is my first poll ever, hope I'm doing it correctly.!

[SoConfused623]

I don't think that my T thinks about me much at all. I would say she does if she sees something that reminds her of me. I really think that Ts care a lot less than what they claim to.

I'm pretty mad at my T and can't stop thinking about it and I feel like it's barely crossed her mind!

[MobiusPsyche]

Well I see my T twice a week so I'd say once every few days.... I know she thinks about me between sessions sometimes because she'll send me an email with links to resources.

[lucozader]

It's really hard for me to formulate a rational answer to that! My gut feeling is "NEVER, he never thinks about me why would he, he doesn't give a toss about me and his life is too busy and interesting and full of happiness to be thinking about me"...

That's probably not actually the case. I have no idea. I'd like to think that he thinks about me sometimes.

[atisketatasket]

Mine would occasionally say something like "I thought of you the other day." And of course if they have to answer an email, or when they are preparing for session.

So, yes, I would say when something reminds them of me fits best.

But I don't know that that means they don't care. It's just that the therapist plays a unique role in our lives, but we do not in theirs. I have many students and I think of them when reminded of them and I do care about them in a teacher-student context, but if we had a disagreement over something like a grade, we would discuss it, but I doubt I would lose sleep over it.

I have no idea Probably varies depending on many factors, e.g. is it a new client, what goes on in the process momentarily, what they are specifically interested in, how interactions with the client affect them, what else goes on in their lives, and a lot more. I definitely never assumed that my T's did not think about me between sessions (their reactions also showed clearly that they did and they also explicitly said it sometimes) but also did not imagine I would be on their minds as much as the other way around.

[stopdog]

I doubt if it is very often if ever. I am not in their real life, I am not that interesting of a client. There would be no reason to think of me. I don't think they should be thinking of me. I can't imagine why they would. It doesn't upset me that they don't - I mean I don't think therapists care one way or the other for the most part-but I also don't think caring is that big of a deal when it comes to therapists. Them not caring is not a bad thing in my opinion.

Mine have all shared times when they had me on their mind. My favorite story was my last T telling about coming to a realization about me while standing in a river fly fishing. They say it is a very meditative activity. Lol.

[junkDNA]

i don't want to know

[AllHeart]

I don't really know. Old t used to tell me she thought about me a lot. In what context, I don't know but I appreciated it. I also thought of her a lot. In various context.

Last session my new t told me that she had been thinking quite a bit about "my situation." I guess that counts for something. It was nice to know but not a necessity. I suspect her norm is to only think of me when she stumbles upon a reminder. I only think of new t when I get a reminder of something around her.

I voted "Only when the see something that reminds them of me ".

My T thinks of me when she reads my letters to her. And she has stated that I do cross her mind sometimes, and therefore sometimes she checks to see what I've messaged her (she has stated she doesn't get notifications).

I don't think she goes out of her way to think of me. Her reading my letters and my messages are more than I hoped for.

[bounceback]

I voted only when they see someone or something that reminds them of me. I had one whom I talked to about having bed bugs (extremely stressful) (gross I know. Not my fault. Someone in the building had them and they spread). One time she goes I thought of you when someone was mentioning bed bugs. (I told her Gee thanks). No not really she had thought of me on better occasions but usually when something reminded her of me. This poll just reminded me of that incident. What an inopportune time to think of someone.

[annielovesbacon]

I really don't know (and I'm not sure I would want to know). Half of me would like to think she thinks of me often, and the other half is positive she doesn't care about me and never thinks about me. Both of those are probably wrong; realistically, she probably thinks about me just occasionally, and that is probably prompted by something that reminds her of me somehow. I find it doubtful that she just ruminates about me for no reason.

[captgut]

My t says he thinks about me "sometimes"
I choose the last variant

[Amyjay]

I have been seeing my current therapist for a couple months. I think she thinks of me when she sees her client list for the day.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I'd say once a week: when I see her and when I email her. Otherwise, I guess if something reminds her of me. I know she says she doesn't worry about me. I'm okay with that. I don't want her obsessed with me or anything.

[Erebos]

Pdoc probably thinks of me every time I miss an appointment and when he send another apt. So about as much as I think of him.lol.

[thesnowqueen]

Interested that many see frequency of thinking about them as a function of caring. I often worried about whether ex T cared about me, but when I wondered what that meant I couldn't really figure it out. It didn't mean whether he thought about me when I wasn't there, necessarily...

[feileacan]

I voted for several times a day. First of all, I see him almost every weekday, so he must think of me during my session time. I'm also pretty certain that I cross his mind occasionally also between sessions, not because he would be obsessed with me but rather because, as he told me recently, he has figured that it is important that he would keep me in his mind. He said he thinks it will help me to keep myself in my mind better. The context is that I have issues with dissociation and feelings of being fragmented.

[nottrustin]

I have no idea how often but I know it happens. She frequently says things Like, " I was thinking about you when" last week it was in relation to me going to the EMDR T. She expected to receive an email letting her know how it went. A couple of days ago she sent me an email saying she found a book she thinks I would like to read and she will bring it to my appt .

Originally Posted by SoConfused623

I don't think that my T thinks about me much at all. I would say she does if she sees something that reminds her of me. I really think that Ts care a lot less than what they claim to.

I'm pretty mad at my T and can't stop thinking about it and I feel like it's barely crossed her mind!

When I think about this question, I compare it to my own work. How often do I think about one of the many projects I am involved in, including the colleagues I collaborate with regularly on the project? For me it really depends on many factors and varies over time. It can be that I don't think about a project for days/weeks at all and other times I'm preoccupied with the same thing all the time for a while. And everything in between. This is how, I imagine, it may work for Ts with clients. It may sound impersonal but we are their work projects after all. I am pretty certain it's very unlikely that a T would never think at all about a client they have been seeing for a while, between sessions. I don't think it's coming from caring per se, more from being involved in something and having invested some time and energy already.

[Myrto]

I chose "Once a week" that is when I have my sessions and I guess she has to prepare for it. I'm not particularly interesting or memorable. I know people here don't want to hear this but I really don't think therapists think about their clients. They have a life and we're not in it. I don't think about my colleagues when I'm not at work, why would therapists think about their clients outside of session? My ex T once said to me: "I take more space in your life than you do in mine, it's the nature of the work". That says everything.

[SoConfused623]

I understand what you're saying about work projects but I'm not so sure that I agree. There is a big difference between a general work project and one where a client is spilling their guts to you about very serious situations. I would think Human Nature would just make the therapist think of us a lot more then someone would think about a general work project.

For instance if one of your colleagues confided in you something really big and personal, you'd be much more apt to think of them between the times you work on the project with them then if you just talked about random everyday stuff and the project of course.

[SoConfused623]

Originally Posted by SoConfused623

I understand what you're saying about work projects but I'm not so sure that I agree. There is a big difference between a general work project and one where a client is spilling their guts to you about very serious situations. I would think Human Nature would just make the therapist think of us a lot more then someone would think about a general work project.

For instance if one of your colleagues confided in you something really big and personal, you'd be much more apt to think of them between the times you work on the project with them then if you just talked about random everyday stuff and the project of course.

That was in response to Xythenesia (sp?) comments about collaborating with colleagues.

Sorry I'm responding on Tapatalk and it's so different than when you're on your computer

Originally Posted by Myrto

I chose "Once a week" that is when I have my sessions and I guess she has to prepare for it. I'm not particularly interesting or memorable. I know people here don't want to hear this but I really don't think therapists think about their clients. They have a life and we're not in it. I don't think about my colleagues when I'm not at work, why would therapists think about their clients outside of session? My ex T once said to me: "I take more space in your life than you do in mine, it's the nature of the work". That says everything.

True. I would say that if they they think of clients it is because something has come up that sparked those thoughts. I know as a teacher, I don't spend much time thinking about my students(in fact I very purposefully try to leave my students at work), but things come up that remind me of certain students at often very random moments. I suspect it's about the same for therapists.