Does your Therapist drink?

itjustis · Mar 28, 2017, 03:31 PM

Me exT is a recovering alcoholic. Hasn't had a drink for years.
She self disclosed when I brought it to her that I was struggling with alcohol. She referred to it a lot actually, so I'm guessing it was a big struggle for her.

Salmon77 · Mar 28, 2017, 04:48 PM

Based on a few off-hand comments I think my T is a normal, moderate drinker--beers with friends, etc. But I've never asked, it's not a big deal to me.

That said, I would be really annoyed with a T that seemed judgmental about my habits. That doesn't sound helpful at all.

Moment · Mar 28, 2017, 04:51 PM

I asked my therapist and he says he will have a beer at a ballgame but doesn't get drunk. He says he's never felt the urge to drink much.

Sometimes I do not think he understands that side of my life or what an achievement my continued sobriety is.

retro_chic · Mar 28, 2017, 05:00 PM

I know from my Facebook "research" that T drinks socially and likes cocktails. It is common for adults to drink socially in Australia so I don't find anything surprising or alarming about my findings.

Favorite Jeans · Mar 28, 2017, 05:20 PM

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How do people even know this about their therapist? I have to say I'm always astounded whenever someone here mentions that they know what their T experienced in life (mental illness, divorce, etc.). None of the therapists I have seen have ever mentioned the harships they faced in life, either in session or on their website. Honestly I'd like to know: it would make them more human and relatable. The only thing I know about my current T is that I found a pic on FB of a bottle of rosé announcing "first spring barbecue!" so I'm guessing she drinks socially. Someone who doesn't drink at all is rare in my country. Most people drink. If you don't drink at all, you're looked at with almost suspicion.

I know what you mean both in terms T's not disclosing and most people here drinking. I have never given any thought as to whether my T drinks. I assume she does. She looked sympathetic when I said that I'd had to stop having red wine (because of migraines) and missed it--like she got that it sucked.

Myrto · Mar 28, 2017, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Favorite Jeans

I know what you mean both in terms T's not disclosing and most people here drinking. I have never given any thought as to whether my T drinks. I assume she does. She looked sympathetic when I said that I'd had to stop having red wine (because of migraines) and missed it--like she got that it sucked.

I'm sorry you can no longer drink red wine because of migraines. Have you tried organic red wine? My mom has the same problems and since she's started drinking organic wine, she rarely has migraines. Sorry for the off topic, OP.

AllHeart · Mar 28, 2017, 06:09 PM

Old t has been an alcoholic all of her life to varying degrees. Her drinking affected most all of her personal relationships -- mine included.

Mar 28, 2017, 06:19 PM

I don't know, never asked and my Ts never discussed their drinking much. My second T mentioned once in passing that "having a scotch can be nice" so I assume he drinks sometimes. I know that my first T's mother was an alcoholic who apparently got and remained sober at some point. My own main issue was alcoholism, so a therapist who drinks heavily would be an absolute no for me and I would not see one who posts alcohol and/or drinking/drunk pictures on the web. I am not that judgmental in everyday life but would just bother me in a T. I would see one who used to have addiction but has successfully given it up.

Pennster · Mar 28, 2017, 07:01 PM

My therapist drinks socially. It's come up in passing occasionally. For a long time he pursued a side career where the scene seems fairly partyish, so I'd be surprised if he was unfamiliar with pot smoking as well.

Drinking has nothing to do with why I am in therapy so I couldn't care less. He's a fairly normal guy and a very social person, and around where I live social drinking is quite typical and unremarkable.

growlycat · Mar 28, 2017, 07:08 PM

Kashi does not drink as he has been in recovery for years. Sober from narcotics even longer.

velcro003 · Mar 28, 2017, 07:11 PM

My T mentioned once that she likes red wine, and while she has mentioned issues in her past to me, drinking never came up as one of them.

BlessedRhiannon · Mar 28, 2017, 07:17 PM

I would assume that my T drinks socially, but we've never really talked about it. As a child of an alcoholic, I don't drink at all and we have talked about my issues around alcohol and people who drink, even socially.

Mar 28, 2017, 07:42 PM

T drinks socially I believe, from pictures I've found on the web. Social drinking is common and unremarkable where I live, though I rarely engage in it myself.

ruh roh · Mar 28, 2017, 07:48 PM

I don't know, but I'm guessing she does. She doesn't show up sauced or anything, but when I said I wanted to try drinking to calm myself down, she gave me tips, and muttered under her breath that she couldn't believe she was doing that. It was really helpful information, though.

captgut · Mar 28, 2017, 11:58 PM

Yes, sometimes. And he has high alcohol tolerance.

rainboots87 · Mar 29, 2017, 12:01 AM

I don't know, but I imagine she drinks socially.

WrkNPrgress · Mar 29, 2017, 11:36 AM

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Originally Posted by ruh roh

I don't know, but I'm guessing she does. She doesn't show up sauced or anything, but when I said I wanted to try drinking to calm myself down, she gave me tips, and muttered under her breath that she couldn't believe she was doing that. It was really helpful information, though.

Now I'm curious about the tips she gave! lol!

lucozader · Mar 29, 2017, 02:29 PM

My therapist drinks lucozade...

Seriously though... I don't know. Probably. As has been mentioned, in the UK pretty much everyone drinks except recovering alcoholics and muslims. I drink very rarely and very little and I generally find that people treat that with confusion and suspicion!

I can't picture him being a big drinker, really.

Mike_J · Mar 29, 2017, 02:53 PM

I have no idea, but I'm guessing she has an occasional beer or glass of wine.

kecanoe · Mar 29, 2017, 11:18 PM

Pdoc told me first session that he is recovered; in fact he told me to attend the AA meeting that he attends (I was/am also sober).

I don't know about any of my ts. Since sobriety is a non-issue for me it hasn't come up.

annielovesbacon · Mar 30, 2017, 12:26 AM

After scrolling through my T's therapist, and the knowledge that she is young and single, I'd imagine she drinks socially. I just admitted to her in our last session that I drink too much, so I'm curious if she will open up about her own drinking (she will occasionally disclose things if she feels it will help me) or if she will make an effort to not ever talk about herself drinking. Either way, it doesn't bother me. It wouldn't trigger or affect me if she talked about it.
Like Tisha said, I'm sure she needs a drink after talking to me. Lol

nottrustin · Mar 30, 2017, 10:34 AM

She drinks occasionally most red wines but sometimes she drinks gin. The only addiction issue she has dealt with is cigarettes. She was a heavy smoker but gave them up for health reasons a few years ago. However, she really liked smoking and would pick them up again if they were safe medically.

laxer12 · Mar 30, 2017, 10:43 AM

I'm would be that my T drinks socially but I guess I don't know for sure. I don't feel like she would ever tell me her drinking habits or what she prefers to drink...then again, I've never asked, so who knows?

annielovesbacon · Mar 30, 2017, 09:57 PM

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After scrolling through my T's therapist, and the knowledge that she is young and single, I'd imagine she drinks socially.

Oops, I meant scrolling through my T's *instagram* lol.

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