[Teddyoonah]

I have group therapy and normaly you have have 1 appointment every 2 months. I have had more appointments than that and last time my t said that she finds it hard to say no to me. Other group members have Only 1 usually except if you have a crisis you can get a extra appointment.

Its this countertranference i'm really attached to her also.
Do you think i should ask her why she finds it hard to say no?
Help me out and let me know what you think!

Maybe she doesn't want to do anything that she feels could be hurtful/harmful to her client, such as denying the client specific appointments that they could benefit greatly from. For example, if a client is REALLY struggling, she may have difficulty saying "no" because she knows that the client needs help and that she would be "wrong" to deny him/her that help, especially if that help has been effective in the past.

What I'm trying to say is that you may not be a "special case". She could be this way with certain other clients, whether it's group or private therapy (assuming she does private also). But you and I both know that the only way to know the REAL answer is to ask. Good luck!

[Teddyoonah]

Thanx for the reply i want to ask her but i'm bit afraid.
I somethimes have the feeling there is something between us but she also really a kind Caring person so maybe i'm seeing things. I really hate being so attached to her i don't know what do with it.

[Teddy:)]

My T has said that she doesn't like saying no to me at times because she doesn't like letting me down or hurting my feelings. But even though she doesn't like doing it she still says no to certain things because as she explains it she is wanting to give me a healthy representation of a relationship and that includes boundaries. If she said yes to everything she would be setting me up for disappointment in my other relationships. So even though I don't like hearing her say no and it feels like she is being mean and punishing me, I get why she does it!
Maybe your T feels you need the extra sessions right now! I know it's scary but maybe try and ask why she finds it hard, it might open the door for a really great discussion and new insights