In Session by Deborah Lott

Has anyone read this book?

I would like to read it, but I can't find a copy for less than £25...!

I recently got a copy of it. I think i read it a long while ago. Are you reading it now?

Can I borrow it una?

I am reading it now (library copy). About halfway through, I think it's pretty good - I find myself nodding at times, so it certainly resonates with me at least a little.

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You can download it to your ereader/kindle from your local library free of charge. The other way is just borrow the book. Unless you wanted to keep it for reference. It is an interesting, informative read.

I read it a couple yrs ago (even though I'm not a woman). It's ok. Unique in that the author is not in the biz. She is a writer. If I read it now, I'd probably be nauseous from the overly sentimental and glorified descriptions of transference, etc. But the book is more honest than most of the delusional stuff written by therapists. She's not afraid to expose problems and risks, though she doesn't go anywhere near far enough.

I thought it was a good read.

Yes, I really enjoyed it. It didn't help me so much figure out how to handle my attachment as much as it just made me not feel so alone or crazy for my thoughts and feelings.

I have the book and I'm going to start reading it.

In Session by Deborah Lott for ~$10.00 USD

It sounds interesting. I just reserved it from my library!

I read it a couple years ago and own a copy (got it on Amazon, don't remember how much but it wasn't very expensive). I liked it, the lay/client perspective is interesting, but I found it quite biased in a few ways. It's definitely worth reading for people like us on this forum.

Yes, I read it several times. It explains transference in an understandable way.

I'm in the UK, so, yeah... the lowest I can find it for is around £20 if I pay for it to be shipped from the US, and it's not available from my library.

I read it a couple of years ago and liked it.

I have it and I read it with having very expectations as I had read a lot of good about it. Now I'm not sure I even finished it because somehow the way things were discussed were no relevant to me at all. Or maybe it was a slightly too simplistic view on things so that I didn't really learn anything new or interesting for myself? Can't quite remember because I read it already several years ago.

I read it 6 years ago, soon after my last traumatic therapy experience. Like BudFox I found it honestly written but not going far enough in addressing some serious systemic problems. Regardless, I would certainly recommend it to anyone who wants to understand the therapy process better, especially if they are in therapy for the first time.

I read it a few years ago, but I didn't find it that relevant to myself.

Excellent book - I bought a used copy on Amazon.

Let us know what you think about it!

It sounds like several of us have read it. Maybe we could have an informal book discussion, if it helps anyone.

The reason I read it:

I was having transference as to my (ex) T and was too scared, at that time, to talk to him. I knew very little about transference back then and my attachment shocked and scared me. I knew I was attached to my T, but he had only mentioned a therapeutic bond.

We were bonded therapeutically, but over the course of four years I found myself having transference, maybe. I wasn't sure but I wondered after reading this forum. There definitely was no ongoing, heavy erotic transference. He was like a father figure to me.

The book was a huge relief and wonderful resource for me when this happened:

I disclosed my transference to T. (Background: He only allowed outside contact via phone to leave a voic mail for scheduling purposes only. He called himself a "blank slate," very conservative, very little self-disclosure, a simple handshake at the end of a session only, etc. He said the therapy room was "sterile.")

I'd noticed over time he complimented my appearance frequently, said I was his hardest working patient, he blushed when I wanted to discuss hypersexuality symptoms I was struggling with I'm bipolar), etc. I don't think he was out of order...until I confessed I had ONE instance where I dreamed we kissed. I cried, apologized. He said he wouldn't terminate me. Next session, it was like another regular session--except at the very end of the session....he terminated me. No referrals. I was shredded. It was like a death to me.

So, that book helped me ALOT. My T was elderly and had been a T for a very long time. He told me he had never had a patient with transference. Until me. The book helped me feel like I wasn't a bad person. I really felt like a bad person when my T dumped me, two days later, after promising he wouldn't...the book really helped me.

I read it. It was not the worst book I have read (that belongs to Yalom or that Burgo guy) but I did not get what all the raving was about either.

That is so sad. I don't understand how therapists can be so cruel.

No one should have to apologize for disclosing positive feelings to a therapist. There is nothing 'bad' about your dream or disclosure. That was brave of you to share with him. I"m sorry it ended that way.

You sound like you are doing good, i hope you recovered fully. Not sure if/how i would. Not strong enough.

About the book...i never got through much of it. I had already read a lot about therapy before I got the book, so it seemed a bit boring or maybe repetitive to me. Made me view it as overrated.

I do think it can probably be a useful book for some, but particularly for people new to therapy that gets intense and brings up those kinds of feelings.