[AnxiousGirl]

I think I may have had my last therapy session today... I have no idea what just happened.

I saw my T today and she said she was worried about me and my anxiety (since it's really high when it comes to worrying about health) and she told me that over the week she was searching for more intense programs I could try since we've been together 2 years and the health anxiety isnt subsiding. She gave me the number and stuff to the place but it's so far from home and it's like a 15 hour a week program.. That's so intense, which she thinks would help more than a 1 hour session a week. I agreed to give them a call but when I got home I was like who am I kidding, I'm not going to commute all the way there for this. So I tried to find some people who specialize in this specific fear near me which I did but then I was like ive been seeing my T for 2 years and just now starting to feel comfortable with her, why am I going to see someone new, pay for it, and start all over again trying to build trust.

The reason I said I may have had my last T appt today was because she said she wasnt going to schedule another appointment because I'm going to "give the new people a call". T did say, before I left, that if I didn't want to go to the new place that it's 100% okay to continue seeing my original T and she said she would come up with a different plan to face the fear.

I have 0 clue what to do. Email T and go back, call the people near me and start fresh with people who specialize with the fear... I mean if this was my last session then that would suck because I wasnt really mentally prepared for that at all lol..

Thanks for reading.. If you made it this far!

[kecanoe]

Yikes. Sounds kind of sudden. Sounds like t wants you to get better. You've said here (don't remember if you have said that you said or emailed it to her) that you feel like you are getting nowhere with this and that you just can't open up.

I think if it were me, I would want to have at least one more session with her before making up my mind. This does not seem like an easy choice. TBH I think I would write out what I need to say about the health anxiety, take it in with me and try to say if, if that didn't work I would try to read it, and if that didn't work I would hand it to her. But that is just what I would do, based on my attachment and trust issues.

Hugs.

[skeksi]

I'd be confused, too! I would personally be very upset by the abruptness of this, but it sounds like she is trying to push you to find something that will work for you, whether it be the other place or continuing with her.

What if you call the place and just get more information about it? That would give you a better sense of whether it would work logistically.

Why not go to this place, get the tour, talk directly to the people in charge, find out what it is all about, etc. and then decide? In the meantime, keep seeing you current therapist. You don't have to make up your mind right away.

I'm sure it feels abrupt and sudden. It is probably something she just discovered and immediately thought you could benefit and wanted to let you know about. It sounds like she just wants to help you find whatever it takes to help you through this.

[LonesomeTonight]

Maybe you just need to try a different T with a different approach and style? If it's someone who specializes in this fear, they may be better at getting you to address it. Would be worth going and having an initial session with one or more of the T's you found, just to see what they're like. And maybe you could keep seeing your current T for a bit while you figure out if the new T will work out.

[AnxiousGirl]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Yeah it definitely did feel really sudden, I was so confused I didn't even know what was going on until I got home. Im thinking of emailing a few other places to get an idea of what they're all about but I also want to email my T and ask what the new plan would be if I kept seeing her (and I want to include in the email that I feel more comfortable with her since ive been seen her long enough). But part of me keeps saying that my T wants to get rid of me which is why she didn't want to make an appointment with me for next week.. Im so lost lol.

[kecanoe]

Originally Posted by AnxiousGirl

Thanks for the replies everyone. Yeah it definitely did feel really sudden, I was so confused I didn't even know what was going on until I got home. Im thinking of emailing a few other places to get an idea of what they're all about but I also want to email my T and ask what the new plan would be if I kept seeing her (and I want to include in the email that I feel more comfortable with her since ive been seen her long enough). But part of me keeps saying that my T wants to get rid of me which is why she didn't want to make an appointment with me for next week.. Im so lost lol.

Obviously I wasn't there, but it really does not sound like she wants to get rid of you. She said she would keep working with you and that she would come up with a new plan. That does not sound like dumping.

I think others have made some good suggestions. It's totally ok to email your t, it's also ok to make an appointment with her to talk about it, if that is what you want to do. Since you trust her, how would it be to get some info from the other place(s), take it in and talk with her about your best course of action? It sounds like she is being quite focused on what is best for you and keeping her ego out of it.

[AnxiousGirl]

Thanks for the replies. I sent an email to my T about the situation and how I'm hesitant to go somewhere else. I asked if she knew anyone who specializes in the issue but isn't as intense as the clinic she referred. I also asked her what her plan would be if I stay with her and told her I'm willing to talk about it and not hide anything anymore if it helps us.