Couch 142 - Pope Hyginus' Final Resting Place (~Something in Latin~)

lucozader · Jun 03, 2017, 10:14 AM

One thing you can do is ignore someone, and then wilfully misread and respond to their posts anyway. That's a thing you can do.

I'm not sure why anyone would do that, but there you go.

What I said was - maybe they're just not a nice person. I don't know. Having already given other, kinder reasons why a person might have used the ignore feature.

stopdog · Jun 03, 2017, 10:17 AM

The feral cat I trapped and had neutered is becoming more tame and visiting inside the house from time to time

Jun 03, 2017, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

Random question for anyone in the US with info on this -- if someone (brother, in my case) is receiving assistance from the government (I don't know what programs but he tells me it's collectively over $2k per month, which seems like a helluva lot for someone who is able-bodied like him), do they need to show up in person regularly to collect it?

He messaged asking me to send $$$$$ because he's in the motherland and so apparently, the government agencies / programs have stopped his payments (he's designated someone as a proxy or something but that's not working out as expected, it seems).

The whole situation is striking me as suspicious (not to mention ridiculous) and he's not forthcoming on the details. So, I'm kinda wondering.

If I were in your position and there is was any part of me that feels I should not send him money..then I would listen to those instincts and not send it. That's me though. I'm not sure what others would do nor do I know how the programs he's getting assistance from works. I always thought they mailed checks, money cards, etc.

stopdog · Jun 03, 2017, 10:20 AM

Government programs and their rules are tricky. The thing that amazes me the most is that some of my clients are masters at working the system -While other people are not good at even the most basic of it. It seems to help if you're not burdened by a great Conscience or overly concerned with being honest or truthful

BonnieJean · Jun 03, 2017, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 2.0

If I were in your position and there is was any part of me that feels I should not send him money..then I would listen to those instincts and not send it. That's me though. I'm not sure what others would do nor do I know how the programs he's getting assistance from works. I always thought they mailed checks, money cards, etc.

I agree with your advice. Also, I think a lot of assistance is electronically transferred now to a bank account or to a funds card.

awkwardlyyours · Jun 03, 2017, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Jersey 2.0

If I were in your position and there is was any part of me that feels I should not send him money..then I would listen to those instincts and not send it. That's me though. I'm not sure what others would do nor do I know how the programs he's getting assistance from works. I always thought they mailed checks, money cards, etc.

Thanks for this -- it helps to have an outside opinion. I tend to get super involved but current T has been pushing me to get the heck out.

I thought so too about the public programs but I'm also really pissed that this whole thing looks like he's defrauding everyone all around.

atisketatasket · 10:52 AM

I have just written a four-page speech to deliver to CW Tuesday. Single-spaced. Outline form.

Just call me Mr. Churchill.

Demunie · Jun 03, 2017, 10:28 AM

Someone in rl just asked me for advice. She takes care of a syrian refugee (a 15 year old kid) who is suicidal. She asked me for advice and venting. I wish I could say: "It'll get better", but I can't. Many people who've been through less don't get better. Why should he?

awkwardlyyours · Jun 03, 2017, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by stopdog

Government programs and their rules are tricky. The thing that amazes me the most is that some of my clients are masters at working the system -While other people are not good at even the most basic of it. It seems to help if you're not burdened by a great Conscience or overly concerned with being honest or truthful

SD -- exactly (I was going to go with all-caps to signal my agreement but resisted).

Dude is supposedly unable to hold down a job, can't get out of his room, seems severely OCD etc and yet it seems he's managed to game the system solidly.

And, I have no idea how he's done it -- he hasn't held a job for many years now.

Also refuses to get any real mental health help (apparently that's supposed to change now with him in the motherland but I have little hope).

junkDNA · Jun 03, 2017, 10:31 AM

Lake... Leaves... Reflections

Couch 142 - Pope Hyginus' Final Resting Place (~Something in Latin~)

awkwardlyyours · Jun 03, 2017, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I have just written a four-page speech to deliver to CW Tuesday. Single-spaced. Outline form.

Just call me Mr. Churchill.

Are you going to hand it to her or are you going to read it out?

I can see advantages for both -- personally, I prefer handing it over.

atisketatasket · Jun 03, 2017, 10:32 AM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

SD -- exactly (I was going to go with all-caps to signal my agreement but resisted).

Dude is supposedly unable to hold down a job, can't get out of his room, seems severely OCD etc and yet it seems he's managed to game the system solidly.

And, I have no idea how he's done it -- he hasn't held a job for many years now.

Also refuses to get any real mental health help (apparently that's supposed to change now with him in the motherland but I have little hope).

I kind of think being OCD would help understand US laws.

Awk - don't get in the trap of sending family money now that you escaped. Spend it on me instead!

awkwardlyyours · Jun 03, 2017, 10:34 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

Awk - don't get in the trap of sending family money now that you escaped. Spend it on me instead!

Pray tell, what would you like, ATAT?

stopdog · Jun 03, 2017, 10:40 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I have just written a four-page speech to deliver to CW Tuesday. Single-spaced. Outline form.

Just call me Mr. Churchill.

I have often longed for a lectern in the woman's office

stopdog · Jun 03, 2017, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

I kind of think being OCD would help understand US laws.

Awk - don't get in the trap of sending family money now that you escaped. Spend it on me instead!

I agree – don't get sucked into someone's money pit. Rescuing people financially is very often a recipe for disaster. It rarely saves the person and can bankrupt the entire family. I have two families right now who are in this position. It breeds resentment, anger and only keeps the dysfunctional person in the position of a child

atisketatasket · 01:39 PM

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Pray tell, what would you like, ATAT?

In the name of humor, I was Googling to see if there was such a thing as a talking therapist doll...when I was diverted by the very large collection on shutterstock of pictures captioned "happy patient talking to psychologist."

To wit.

Possible trigger:

stopdog · Jun 03, 2017, 10:51 AM

Oh my god that's going to give me nightmares. Or throw up. Seems to rise to the level of World War II propaganda. When you ride without a therapist you ride with Hitler sort of thing.

And why are they so close? Ack ack. I rarely sit that close to people I love, let alone a ****ing therapist. I think that photo needs a trigger warning.

lucozader · Jun 03, 2017, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

In the name of humor, I was Googling to see if there was such a thing as a talking therapist doll...when I was diverted by the very large collection on shutterstock of pictures captioned "happy patient talking to psychologist."

To wit.

I am truly moved by the intimate moment that has been captured here.

Is it time for a caption competition?

atisketatasket · Jun 03, 2017, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by awkwardlyyours

Are you going to hand it to her or are you going to read it out?

I can see advantages for both -- personally, I prefer handing it over.

Read it. She's a slippery type and I want to ensure responses. But I also don't want her talking too much.

stopdog · Jun 03, 2017, 10:53 AM

They are quite wily. Not to mention overly defensive and rarely able to admit to their own faults.

awkwardlyyours · Jun 03, 2017, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

In the name of humor, I was Googling to see if there was such a thing as a talking therapist doll...when I was diverted by the very large collection on shutterstock of pictures captioned "happy patient talking to psychologist."

To wit.

That looks............really real.

Btw, when I was venting at current T, I'd told her that I'd considered getting a voodoo doll (signifying her; maybe one of her super loud colleagues I've run into at other times; a client or two of hers I can't stand; etc).

I did seriously consider getting hold of a 3-D printer and printing out a little vinyl figure of hers that I can crush whenever I'm not feeling pleased (one of my colleagues squishes one of a certain political figure whenever he's stressed out).

She did have the grace to admit that the therapist voodoo dolls would be hot sellers.

stopdog · Jun 03, 2017, 11:36 AM

Hence in short stories, I both kill them off in gruesome fashion and make others of their ilk the villian.

junkDNA · Jun 03, 2017, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by atisketatasket

In the name of humor, I was Googling to see if there was such a thing as a talking therapist doll...when I was diverted by the very large collection on shutterstock of pictures captioned "happy patient talking to psychologist."

To wit. Couch 142 - Pope Hyginus' Final Resting Place (~Something in Latin~)

They are too close who sits on the same couch as the therapist