[20oney]

This has happened before, but generally we find a different time.. But now it's going to be another 2 and a half weeks.. After already being 2 weeks..

It's like, I've just realised exactly how alone I am in all of this without her. I have zero support. No one who gets what is going on, no one who really knows, or bothers to understand.. I know that I can, and will make it by. But I really really need this right now. I'd just started to get it into my head, that I was feeling safe, secure, stable.. It just feels like this has all been stomped on. Like I am going to have to build all of this back up again..

Why is this hitting me so darn hard? Is this all part of the process? When will it stop hurting so bad?

[Demunie]

So sorry... 4weeks is an extremly long time to be without T. Happened to me once and it was completly awful.

I know that it's not the same as IRL support, but we're here to support you if you need us

T explained to me that it's normal to feel that way during his vacations... Because it can mimic the feeling of abandonment. That the only way to get "over it" is to talk with T about it. So yeah. I think it is part of the process. Most importantly though, don't feel ashamed for what you're feeling. Talk with your T about this when he comes back.

Do you have the possibility to do a phone session or something like that in between? Just so you could talk with him...

[20oney]

Originally Posted by Demunie

So sorry... 4weeks is an extremly long time to be without T. Happened to me once and it was completly awful.

I know that it's not the same as IRL support, but we're here to support you if you need us

T explained to me that it's normal to feel that way during his vacations... Because it can mimic the feeling of abandonment. That the only way to get "over it" is to talk with T about it. So yeah. I think it is part of the process. Most importantly though, don't feel ashamed for what you're feeling. Talk with your T about this when he comes back.

Do you have the possibility to do a phone session or something like that in between? Just so you could talk with him...

Yeah I can email, and have been thinking about it, but I have no idea what to say.. I don't want her to turn around and make a spot for me just because I have expressed my emotions towards this.. But then I also do want her to make a spot.. Either way, it's a loss. I donno.

Thanks for the reply!

[Teddy:)]

Did your T offer a make up session due to her having to cancel your scheduled one?
Whenever my T has cancelled she has always offered me a make up session, even if it means working back to fit me in!

Maybe if you were to explain that you are struggling and could really do with an extra/make up session to replace the one she cancelled and see what she says, no harm in asking.

[doogie]

I'm in a break right now with T due to my vacation/her vacation/scheduling difficulties. I understand what you mean when you say that you know you will make it - but you need your T. Our Ts understand us in a way that others in our lives don't. My T knows things about me and my past that my husband doesn't even know. And because she knows those things, she is uniquely able to support me in ways that others in my life can't. I can call/text/email my T during this break...but....it's just not the same, is it? It's just not the same as the time spent sitting across from T in the same room. It's just not. I'm sorry you are in this situation. Keep posting, and know you aren't alone.
Doogie

[Salmon77]

Four weeks without a session seems like a long time especially if it's not a planned vacation. I can't imagine anything wrong with emailing and saying you'd like to get in if she has a cancellation or something.

[20oney]

Originally Posted by Salmon77

Four weeks without a session seems like a long time especially if it's not a planned vacation. I can't imagine anything wrong with emailing and saying you'd like to get in if she has a cancellation or something.

It is a long time hey. There is no chance of a session for another 2 weeks.. I really want to be mad with her, but I am level headed and can see that it is okay. I am ok.. I donno, I just feel like it has caused a big disturbance in my mind and there is no one around to fix it or calm it.. It's a bit rough at the moment.