[Tbhimscared]

I tend to be on the more personal side and have a really hard time opening up to anyone, so I still keep lots of things from my T that I probably should bring up but haven't had the courage or the right timing for it. Do you guys do this too? What kinda of things do you keep from them and why?

[Argonautomobile]

With regularity. Hard to say things to T that I can't even admit to myself.

[Teddy Bear]

I share everything ��

[feileacan]

I keep lots of things. Most of my thoughts, actually.

I have problems with my sexuality but I basically never talk to him about it, mostly because I don't really know what to talk about it because there is some related stuff I don't want to talk about (feels too exposing) but other than that there isn't anything to talk about it.

I don't talk about my friends or the people I relate to. When I talk to people then I talk about them generally and then I think about them generally - a grey faceless mass of people. I don't talk about anyone in particular. I don't tell who are these people I relate to and how I relate to them, so he basically has no idea about this part of my life.

I mostly censor out any spontaneous thought that occurs to me during session, just because ... I can? I feel the need to contemplate each thought first on my own and then this thought is already thought and I don't feel like saying it.

So yeah, I actually do keep many things from my T. He has admitted that after four years of intensive therapy he still has very hard time getting me because I just don't give him enough information. I know it but I don't seem to be able to do anything about it because I have operated on this level of privacy from the very young age and I'm just so used to it.

[ScarletPimpernel]

I tell my T everything. I might not tell her right away. Sometimes, like if something she said bothers me, it takes awhile for me to process. I'll then usually tell her in an email.

I can't say that I do. That doesn't mean he knows everything either; not everything is particularly relevant to what I am there. But if it is relevant, I tell him about it. Is that easy? Not always; sometimes it feels impossible but I do it anyway. I made a promise to myself that I was going to walk through whatever fire I had to walk through to get to the other side. That meant talking about very difficult, sometimes embarrassing, often terrify and painful things. But for me, that is what I needed to do, so I bit the bullet and did it. My therapists knew when I was struggling with talking and they were patient and found ways to help me feel safe saying whatever it was I needed to get out.

I share everything.

[SoConfused623]

I share everything except I cant imagine talking about our relationship and how i feel about her. I think of her way too much and just dont think i could ever discuss it with her. My old blank slate T and i had lots of discussions about our relationship and how we interacted with one another.

[DodgersMom]

some things i think are too risky to say so i dont but mostly i do. i do censor my thoughts a lot though

[stopdog]

I used to try and explain to the woman certain things. She proved unworthy. Now I tell her only about dogs and grief. The rest simply was not worth how horrible she was when I tried. There are a good number of things that are simply not relevant to why I saw a therapist - so those are also left out. The funny thing about those things is that sometimes I mention something about them - like attending a drum healing night at my yoga place - she is like "I did not know you did ..." like she is surprised she did not know - my response is there is a lot about me you don't know - most things you don't know. Then she gets all huffy "well blah blah but I guess I don't know you" Me "yep you don't"

[Tbhimscared]

I really keep things to myself in my personal life, so it's so hard to open up when I'm not used to it. I can only be honest about my feelings after a few drinks (unhealthy, i know) so unless I decide to go see my T drunk, i think it'll be a while until I really let some things out

[Sarmas]

I keep many things from my T including my whereabouts and what I do and don't do. I'm very generalized. When I speak there's not so much detail. At one point I was trying to become more open but it's a trust thing for me. I have to make sure that my T is really listening and consistent with it. If I feel that I don't have her full undivided attention while in session then I can't share my deepest trust. I feel like a fool doing so. Her behavior recently caused me to pull away.

[annielovesbacon]

I have a very hard time opening up to my T. It's kind of a catch-22 situation: I can't open up until I have known someone for a long time, but if I go too long without telling T something it feels like I just shouldn't say anything for fear of looking like a liar, I guess.
That said, there are many things I don't tell T just because they're not relevant to therapy and so I don't want to spend my precious time with her on them. I don't think I've ever spoken to her about relationships, church, my sexuality, etc... but if one or some of those things began either to affect me or become affected by my mental illness then I would try to bring it up if I could.

[Amyjay]

I keep many things from my therapist. I keep many things from myself.

[ElectricManatee]

I probably keep some stuff from my T, but definitely much less than I used to. I experimented with sharing very small things that made me uncomfortable to talk about, and then when that went okay, I gradually worked toward sharing bigger, scarier things. That process took months, though.

[junkDNA]

I have,, yes.

Yes, there isn't time to cover everything.

[Wila]

I try not to, but some things are just to hard to talk about.

[InnerPeace111]

I do not tell my T everything. There are just certain things that I like to keep to myself. I don't think my T needs to know everything. Not everything is relevant either.

[tosca203]

I don't think I've intentionally kept anything from my T, but there are also lots of things we haven't discussed mainly because we haven't been doing this long enough to cover all topics. For example, we haven't gotten into anything re: romantic relationships/sex/sexuality. I really don't know how I'll react to these conversations.

Oh, and I haven't fully disclosed how much I think about him/therapy in between sessions. Nothing too racy or exciting, but I do get obsessive (hence why I am here, posting on discussion boards). I've hinted at it, but I think I need to be more explicit.

[zoiecat]

I keep many things from my T, mainly about self harm and suicidal intent. Although he knows about my suicidal thoughts (only because he brings it up), some things are better left unsaid unless I want to be forced into the hospital.

[DodgersMom]

of course, there is tons of mundane things he doesn't need to know and he tells me i only need to share things if its bothering me or very important to the current topic. so thats what i stick to doing. I'm not gonna tell him minute by minute details of my life (everything) thats weird

[Tbhimscared]

I don't openly share very much but if I'm asked a specific question I'll usually answer. My T doesn't know about my suicidal thoughts and only after seeing her for over 8 months now we've finally started to talk about my depression. A lot of my problems stem from feeling like a burden so it's hard to open up and put my problems onto someone else

[Erebos]

All the time...in fact I keep most of everything from him except what I need to feed him to get my meds and to get him to sign off on MH assessments.