When I really, really, really need or miss my T I....

read a book that he has recommended

write in my journal

write a poem

cry

if i have a saved voicemail from him, i listen to it

call his voicemail and listen to it

call him if things get bad enough

--what do you do? I'm looking for some other ideas.

I use to look up both of us in the phone book, make sure we both still existed :-)

Go to a card store and find a card that fits what you're feeling/the "next" holiday. It gets to be fun (finding a "Mother's Day" card appropriate for your male T). I still like the Valentine Card I got that said something like "You're always asking me how I feel! Well, I'll tell you how I feel. . ." open it up, "I feel fine". Mother's Day cards are no picnic trying to find the "appropriate" one for a female T when you don't want to go into the "mothering" role either! But the experience is very distracting and can be entertaining and educational even. You start thinking what kind of card would be appropriate for T's and designing a line of cards like that, etc. :-) They have divorce cards now, why not a line of cards to give one's T? Beats poetry all to heck.

don't think I have any original ideas but I:

<ul type="square">* look at his picture on psychology today website

*use the healing from trauma guided imagery audio recording from www.healthjourneys.com -- it is by Bellaruth Naparstek and she is on the forefront of healing trauma research. In this recording you take a guided walk through your heart, with someone you visualize as your guide to accompany you. Well, guess who the guide is? It really works &amp; sometimes he holds my hand as we walk. HIGHLY RECOMMENDED

*listen to his saved voicemails on my cell phone
**take a walk and have a virtual conversation with him. Once I told him about this and he said, "How'd I do?" LOL
*journal
*write poetry
*post here about my favorite and least favorite T sayings [/list]

1. Hear his voice.

2. Listen to the 4 voicemails I have saved.

3. Hear his voice.



Peace

Listen to a saved voice mail at work.

Call and listen to her answering machne message. (It makes me chuckle.. She must have been distracted or really really concentrating on some other part of the message she was recording, because at the beginning she says in her calm, slow distinct manner, "If this is an emergency, hang up and dial 9-1- hesitation.."... "-1". Too funny, as if she just couldn't quite recall that entire...number...)

Imagine a conversation with her.

Fantasize about her hugging me or comforting me.

Recall something we've talked about and explore it more.

Remember a particular wonderful session or a favorite moment with her.

Think of the room... my view from where I sit each time.

She wears dresses and I love her clothes, so I might think of a particular dress she's worn that I like.

I come here & read you...& for a few minutes i kind of experience your conversations & identify with u & some recent posts were so beautiful.....

or I decide that it's over, i'm fed up with loving her, I want to forget her....& I never do....of course...

show up at his door without an appointment. lol, jk. can you imagine? what would happen?

--Read past journal entries about him.
--Write in my journal about how I am feeling
--Write a poem if it's really bad
--Look at his pictures--I have quite a few
--Post here on PC about how wonderful he is
--Listen to an mp3 I have of him singing
--Read past emails from him to me
--Have a dream about him with important and symbolic imagery

well hey, pink, since you're showing up at his door.... tell us--what happens!!?

Hmmm... well I'm sitting here laughing like a jackass as I picture the scenario.

I can just imagine the look on his face... it's a Tuesday or Wednesday, two days in which he knows I cannot normally schedule appointments... and he comes down to the waiting room to get the next patient.... and there I am waiting, hahahaha... and I insist on going upstairs to the room. I just follow them right up, lol, and refuse to leave.

but we have to take it further... he is Delighted to see you wating there! (and so glad he isn't wearing the cheese cube shirt). He says you must have been reading his mind because he had been wishing all day that it was the day of your session!

.. too late to edit my initial reply, but I should have included 'cry'. Oh I do plenty of that!

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but we have to take it further... he is Delighted to see you wating there! (and so glad he isn't wearing the cheese cube shirt). He says you must have been reading his mind because he had been wishing all day that it was the day of your session!



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Oh Echoes, I think I love you.
And thankfully, that shirt has not yet re-entered the rotation, lol.