[Cleo6]

At work we have to see a therapist for an hour every other month. Yesterday I saw her for the first time and we were talking about counselling and I told her about the therapist I'm seeing and she said she was shocked and horrified at the stuff that my therapist has been doing and stuff she's said. I left feeling all confused and hurting. I was meant to of met up with a friend after work but she cancelled so just stayed*at home trying to process everything she told me. *I saw my therapist on friday and im not seeing her again now until 15th Sept. I've deleted all the photos I had of her screenshot on my phone and I was recording our sessions and *re listening to them to feel close to her between sessions and also as I use to walk out of session sometimes not remembering large chunks and I was worried about what I was saying unknown. I feel like a proper stalker admitting that. I've also blocked her from Facebook so I can't give in to the urge to see if she's changed any of her pictures. I'm hoping with this long break and cutting these links from her come next session I can just text her and tell her I'm not coming back

[precaryous]

Originally Posted by Cleo6

At work we have to see a therapist for an hour every other month. Yesterday I saw her for the first time and we were talking about counselling and I told her about the therapist I'm seeing and she said she was shocked and horrified at the stuff that my therapist has been doing and stuff she's said. I left feeling all confused and hurting. I was meant to of met up with a friend after work but she cancelled so just stayed*at home trying to process everything she told me. *I saw my therapist on friday and im not seeing her again now until 15th Sept. I've deleted all the photos I had of her screenshot on my phone and I was recording our sessions and *re listening to them to feel close to her between sessions and also as I use to walk out of session sometimes not remembering large chunks and I was worried about what I was saying unknown. I feel like a proper stalker admitting that. I've also blocked her from Facebook so I can't give in to the urge to see if she's changed any of her pictures. I'm hoping with this long break and cutting these links from her come next session I can just text her and tell her I'm not coming back

I'm sorry!

If not too painful, what kinds of things horrified the work therapist?

[Cleo6]

She was giving me gifts for my kids, telling me she loved me, talking to me about her family and any good or bad things relating to them or her friends. She would ask me questions about how I feel about something but then would also answer it in the same breath so I couldn't answer it. She totally minimised things i have gone through so I didn't feel able to bring it up to talk about. She also use to give me a disapproving look when I would try and bring up certain topics so I would avoid it and then there were other topics if I tried to bring up she would just focus on some other part of the story and not what I needed to talk about. There's other stuff aswell

[precaryous]

Is she a licensed therapist?
My T is very liberal with her support and all that but she doesn't talk about her family and friends. She definitely would not tell me, "I love you."

[precaryous]

What do you think you will do?

It's difficult to start over, isn't it?

[Cleo6]

Yeah she's fully trained on the register for 15 years. At the moment I don't want to go back but as we get near to the next session I think it's gonna be really hard. She's the first one I've opened up to

[Ellahmae]

I may have to play 'devils advocate' and open up a little about my own therapy... Duchess (my T) is one of the best trauma therapists in the western US. No lawsuits, 1000's of clients, no reports on her record. One of the reasons why I sought her out. She is different with each and every client. She isn't the same for everyone. With me (and some) she is very open, very close to me. Gifts are allowed. Open communication via calling and texting has always been and will always be available. I know she honestly loves me, and it isn't an act. It is because of this relationship and the honesty behind it, that has caused me to open up and get the help that I need.

The part that worries me about your present therapist is: "She totally minimized things i have gone through so I didn't feel able to bring it up to talk about. She also use to give me a disapproving look when I would try and bring up certain topics so I would avoid it and then there were other topics if I tried to bring up she would just focus on some other part of the story and not what I needed to talk about." This is concerning, however, the relationship you two have, has it not allowed you to open up? You said she is the first you have opened up to, perhaps there is actual reason in the 'madness' your work therapist sees?

I think you should bring up your concerns (mainly those of the work therapist) with your current regular therapist. I hope I'm not out of line but some therapists don't understand other T's approaches, and does you work T know what you are working on with your regular T?

[Cleo6]

She called my csa abuser a bit iffy. Every time I tried to talk about him she had a way of changing the subject or focusing on the non relevant bits. I showed her a letter my ex wrote to me which had information about stuff he done to me which I hadn't told her about and all she focused on was the way he wrote the sentences and how some of it sounds like he's been influenced by others

[Ellahmae]

Originally Posted by Cleo6

She called my csa abuser a bit iffy. Every time I tried to talk about him she had a way of changing the subject or focusing on the non relevant bits. I showed her a letter my ex wrote to me which had information about stuff he done to me which I hadn't told her about and all she focused on was the way he wrote the sentences and how some of it sounds like he's been influenced by others

I'm sorry, cleo.