[SheHulk07]

Hey everyone...if anyone remembers me here.. I'm Amy.
I haven't been on here since January, so quite a long time.
I think the last time I was on here I had found out I was pregnant with my 4th child, and going through a lot with my husband.
I just had my baby girl on July 30, we're doing okay.
Just adjusting to life as a mom of 4 and not trying to lose my crap with no sleep.

I do have somewhat of a question though. Since about 2013 I've been going to therapy through a community mental health clinic. The therapist that I was seeing for 3 years left in October, and then I got placed with a horrible therapist that I didn't like. After a few sessions with her I asked to be switched to a different therapist in the office.
I started seeing this new T in December, and have been seeing her weekly for the most part.
I feel like we've gotten nowhere and I'm just chit chatting with a friend making small talk.
So I looked up a different place that takes my insurance and met with a new T today.
I don't know whether I'll like this T but he seems cool and told me that he doesn't really do the chit chatty thing unless the client is having a really good week and just needs a break from other topics. Seems the direction I would like to go.
But I'm fearful of how to stop going to this other T and losing any extras I might have with the clinic...like the weekend walk in clinic, psychiatrist (if need be) and groups if I wanted to again.
I'm so lost to what to do, but I just know I can't continue with the T I have now...and the next time I could get in to see current T because of my change in schedule isn't until mid September.

[toomanycats]

I'd take the time between now and mid September to continue seeing the new T.
Then, keep your appointment for mid-September and, if the new T is a better fit, you can have a termination session explaining to current T your decision.

(This is what I am doing right now, actually.)

[Elio]

If your visits with current T are that far apart and if you can afford it, keep both T's. I understand you feel current T doesn't seem to be getting you anywhere, have you actually talked to current T about this? Perhaps they feel they are still in the getting you to trust them stage or.. ? If overall, you like current T, it might worth seeing what she can offer once you talk to her about what you are feeling.

[SheHulk07]

Originally Posted by Elio

If your visits with current T are that far apart and if you can afford it, keep both T's. I understand you feel current T doesn't seem to be getting you anywhere, have you actually talked to current T about this? Perhaps they feel they are still in the getting you to trust them stage or.. ? If overall, you like current T, it might worth seeing what she can offer once you talk to her about what you are feeling.

Usually it's every week with current T but because my husband changed his work schedule, I had to cancel appointments and reschedule them to afternoon times. I'm guessing she doesn't have many afternoon appts available often if the next time I could get scheduled was the 20th of next month.

[Demunie]

Hei Ami,

I've been wondering how you are, I missed your posts... I agree with the others that you could keep both Ts in the meantime. It seems like the best option. If I remember correctly, you used to struggle a lot... Not seeing a T, whether you like her or not, for so long doesn't seem like a good idea to me.

Are you and your H still in couples counselling?

[SheHulk07]

Originally Posted by Demunie

Hei Ami,

I've been wondering how you are, I missed your posts... I agree with the others that you could keep both Ts in the meantime. It seems like the best option. If I remember correctly, you used to struggle a lot... Not seeing a T, whether you like her or not, for so long doesn't seem like a good idea to me.

Are you and your H still in couples counselling?

Thanks. That's probably what I'll do is just keep my schedule with her and see this new T in the meantime. And yes we're still doing couples therapy although we have had a few week break due to the new baby. We're starting back next week fornour weekly sessions.