Has the therapist you hire told you that you hurt them?

Her shrieking rage, sarcasm and insults were over my attempt to terminate. I felt plenty blamed, and certainly didn’t think her anger should even be mentioned. (Ps I was unmedicated, duly employed, a homeowner, no addictions, no danger to myself or others.)

I'm not sure why you quoted my post. I was replying to someone else's question and speaking in general terms, not about anyone's specific situation.

In my case “I feel anger” was not this therapist taking ownership. It was a power display. The queen was displeased, and the subordinate better obey. I recall the group turning subdued and quiet when she said it. Her fury was over my plan to leave therapy. I don’t think her “feelings” had the slightest role in the discussion.

I voted 'other'. There have been times during therapy when T will ask something like, "Do you think I don't care what you do?" I answered that particular question by saying, "that's sure what it feels like." T seemed (momentary facial expression) a bit hurt, but T wouldn't ever tell me outright. I was sorry, on one level, but T wanted to know and that's what I felt, so, no, I wasn't sorry for being honest.

T is pretty solid in our therapy, knowing some things I say or feel are not meant to hurt, but perhaps are part of my misconceptions or my perspective, which may be a bit skewed.