When your t shares too much about their private life.

I really can't get my head round the hypocrisy of this post. Seriously, it makes no sense to me. You appear to be saying 'no-one should judge your ability to work in your chosen career based on your posts here mona... now excuse me while I openly judge the ability of other members here to work in their chosen careers.'

I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt on this and assume it's accidental, but you should also be aware that some of the things you say appear to be rather specifically and unpleasantly targeting particular members here.

I don't believe that your clients are nobody's business in situations when people believe that you might pose a potential danger to their well-being due to your cluelessness about the ethical rules of your profession (because if you condone some of the things your therapist is doing to you, you are clearly clueless about the purpose of ethical rules). Just like it's everybody's business when an alcoholic gets behind the steering wheel and starts driving while drunk. I could have compassion for their problem and help them to overcome it and to get sober, but I won't stay silent when they are in denial of the fact that they have a problem and when their denial puts other people in danger.


My question was not about implying that ethical boundaries are black and white. This was a red herring you introduced to deflect the conversation from exploring how your blindness regarding your own therapy can cause you to become blind about your approach to your work, which can put your own clients in danger.


If you don't see the connection between what's happening in your therapy and your work as a therapist, that doesn't mean there is no connection. When other people see it, they bring it up. They can't, in good consciousness, let it go unnoticed and unaddressed.


Is this not supportive, judgmental? Hell yeah. There is no such thing as unconditional support of anyone under any circumstances. Support will always have its limits. I can support you with all my heart as long as I see that your destructive and harmful "therapy" doesn't affect anyone else. But the minute I believe it potentially puts other people in danger, which I do, my support will end at that point.


You shouldn't be surprised to see the reactions you are seeing here. You are coming to a forum where many people have been harmed by therapists who were confused about professional ethics and who were too caught up in their own personal dramas and all kinds of personal issues to be fit to do the work they were supposed to be doing. When they see you being on the same low level of self-awareness as their therapists were, understandably, it triggers their traumas and, understandably, they react strongly to your story. For them and myself, the fact that you are being abused by your own therapist doesn't absolve you of your responsibility to do your own work ethically and professionally, and, if someone believes that you may not even understand what it means, they become concerned about the well-being of your own clients. It seems to me that you don't understand what professional and ethical work entails, because if you did you wouldn't be condoning your own therapist's actions. As long as you choose to stay willfully ignorant about the connection between your own therapy and your work, you won't get much support from those who have been harmed by the ignorant therapists like you.

I was reading an interesting article and I thought of this post, The therapist is talking about when she self discloses during therapy:

This is not inappropriate or bullying at all. What an utter load of tripe from a so called therapist.
As have been stated by me and many people on here I do not condone what my therapist does. I have called her abusive and said she is not perfect.
You can call me ignorant if it makes you feel better bullying, being abusive and projecting into others but as far as I can see you are the only ignorant therapist around here. Now if you insist on being so proactive in taking me down please do so when you have the correct facts in place. I won't tolerate bullying in this insidious way.

Growth right there Mona. I've talked a lot about this with my T's , being on the wavelength of continuing to learn and grow ( which they both do too )This has been an interesting thread with room for people to look at themselves ( if they choose too ) and I'm glad you're still with us on the boards - I will be discussing your contribution to my thread with my T tomorrow , it was very valuable.

Growth right there Mona. I've talked a lot about this with my T's , being on the wavelength of continuing to learn and grow ( which they both do too )This has been an interesting thread with room for people to look at themselves ( if they choose too ) and I'm glad you're still with us on the boards - I will be discussing your contribution to my thread with my T tomorrow , it was very valuable.

I agree! This thread has been a bit like a group therapy session. Maybe a bit triggering to some (in various ways) but exactly why it's been worth the lessons, IMO. I am glad you initiated it, mona.

I really don't understand this post. I presume it's directed at me because you specifically mention my name in it but I clearly didn't write the post you quoted.

I really don't understand this post. I presume it's directed at me because you specifically mention my name in it but I clearly didn't write the post you quoted.

It was directed at AttachmentEsBueno, whose post I quoted. I was using your name in an attempt to summarise what I believed them to have said (and they had originally been addressing you).


I was not intending to say anything whatsoever about you in that post, rather I was confused and worried by AEB's attitude.