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View Poll Results: What word(s) if any would you prefer to "termination"?
None, I like "termination" 5 10.64%
None, I like "termination"
5 10.64%
End/ending 15 31.91%
End/ending
15 31.91%
Closure/closing 16 34.04%
Closure/closing
16 34.04%
Finish 5 10.64%
Finish
5 10.64%
Conclusion 14 29.79%
Conclusion
14 29.79%
Discontinuation/discontinuance 1 2.13%
Discontinuation/discontinuance
1 2.13%
Wrap-up/wind-up 10 21.28%
Wrap-up/wind-up
10 21.28%
Dissolution 1 2.13%
Dissolution
1 2.13%
Other (please elaborate) 10 21.28%
Other (please elaborate)
10 21.28%
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 10:30 AM
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The termination thread reminded me of how that word has always bugged me. It suggests being fired and/or death. As opposed to the end of a journey, which is what I think it was originally supposed to indicate in the context.

I put up a poll for possible alternatives, drawn from the thesaurus, but what do you think of the word/what would you substitute and why?

I like the Greek word telos myself, it means that one's object has been achieved or completed.
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 10:41 AM
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I would choose quitting or coming to my senses.
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 10:44 AM
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I agree. I hate the word "termination." I think of it as associated with death--as in, she has a "terminal" illness. Any of the other words you suggested would actually be better!
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 10:50 AM
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I would choose quitting or coming to my senses.
How about "emancipation"?
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 10:55 AM
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No - for me emancipation does not work for therapy.
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 11:35 AM
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How are you trying to use it?
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I assume it's a word indicating stopping therapy with one particular therapist. They can instigate it when they think they've done all they can do with that client. Am I right? I guess it would be a word also used when the client tells the therapist about wanting to end therapy, would it not?

Of course, some clients are very happy to stop therapy--like they were a slave? Hence, emancipation?
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 12:03 PM
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"Termination" is the ending of a relationship between therapist and client. It could be by mutual agreement, or be initiated by either therapist or client. Sometimes one party fires the other.
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 04:24 PM
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Focussed withdrawal. I have used the word concluding. I had a very silly T say I'd used the word termination in relationship to a job for some reason pertaining to me when that's what it's called like " You're calling it a table " - it's CALLED a table are you nuts ?!!
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I would choose quitting or coming to my senses.


This reminds me of that Fritz Perls saying, "you have to lose your mind to come to your senses".
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"Termination" is the ending of a relationship between therapist and client. It could be by mutual agreement, or be initiated by either therapist or client. Sometimes one party fires the other.
I dont think thats what ts think termination is. I could be wrong. Its when the work is done, complete. You can stop working with a t without it being a termination. You just stop working with them, or stop seeing them. I think this is more often the case than that the work is completed.
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 05:47 PM
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I dont think thats what ts think termination is. I could be wrong. Its when the work is done, complete. You can stop working with a t without it being a termination. You just stop working with them, or stop seeing them. I think this is more often the case than that the work is completed.

That would make more sense...except they keep offering me “termination sessions” when I leave even though the work is nowhere near complete.

So maybe the therapists don’t even know what it is themselves.

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Old Nov 21, 2017, 06:49 PM
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For me, it has more to do with the nature of the therapist and our parting. I've been ditched and also did some ditching with a couple. In other cases, they've moved or died or given up hope. With one, I escaped. I also replaced one with a new car. I don't know what I will call it when my therapist retires. The end of all things, maybe.

I loathe the word termination.
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I voted for closure/closing. I think I like it because it makes me think of a door and when one door closes another opens. Or maybe that passing through a door (to move from one side to another) indicates a transition from one experience on one side of the door to another experience on the other side of the door. I am personally working on bringing a gentle acceptance to each experience in my life, moment by moment. Therefore, the words closure/closing are the most meaningful to me. I hope this makes sense!
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 07:14 PM
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Does it need a word?

Can't I just say I stopped seeing Blondie (or Medea)?

The place I used to work at earlier would call firing people, "separations".

I think I revolted against all euphemisms from then on (although I wasn't one of the folks dealing with the "separation").
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When I was having a horrible ending with a T, I called it
TERMIGEDDON.

I have no idea what to call a mutually agreed upon ending. Good question.
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End/Ending or
This part of my journey is complete or
I'm done with this horsesh1t.
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 08:01 PM
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I think termination is fine. I mean, it is like death or being fired. Tell it like it is...
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 08:08 PM
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I also replaced one with a new car.
Huh. It is very tempting to get a new car instead of seeing Info, even though the current car is fibe. I could lease or pay off the loan for 2-3 new cars a month at Info’s rates.

Future poll question, would you prefer your therapist or a new car?

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Does it need a word?

Can't I just say I stopped seeing Blondie (or Medea)?
Nobody stops seeing Medea. She kills ‘em if they do.

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When I was having a horrible ending with a T, I called it
TERMIGEDDON.
I like it. So by my count I have had...five TERMIGEDDONs.
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Old Nov 21, 2017, 08:35 PM
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I could lease or pay off the loan for 2-3 new cars a month at Info’s rates.
Same here. I could also buy one to three new iPhones a month, depending on the model. Instead, I'm still using an iPhone 5S that a friend gave me for free because my old phone was so crappy that he felt bad for me.
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