[SilentMelodee]

Does anyone else think of their Ts on holidays? Like where they are, what they're doing, what their traditions are? Yes, I know some of you will think the thought of this is appalling, but I'm just curious for those who do. I miss my T on holidays.

[Elio]

I'm with you here. I miss her, I wonder what she does, what her celebration looks like, and such.

[zoiecat]

The thought is not appalling but I don't really think about what he is doing either. Holidays are miserable for me I'm very triggering based on my childhood so I guess I tend to try to hear my therapist in my head reminding me of things that I should do to just try to get through the holidays. It is purely therapeutical thoughts. I personally could not care less what he is doing or anybody else for that matter as far as celebrating the holiday.

[ruh roh]

I do, but it's more along the lines imagining her having a peaceful and warm celebration more so than wondering what she is doing.

[nikon]

i haven't really had this in the past but this christmas i've had it. with my mental illnesses i'm not in a bad space, but i feel very disconnected from my family and don't enjoy being with them. i don't feel like i love them or want to be close to them. i keep imagining what my therapist or dr might be doing for christmas and whether in their families things are as uncomfortable, or whether they are all nice and loving and everything is alright - because in the therapeutic relationship, i guess, the therapist is there to play the "everything is alright" role.

like i know everyone has their troubles and family troubles, but i keep imagining they must be having a more "functional" family holiday, or being happier or something.

[seeker33]

Yes, I do miss and think about her. She's told me a bit about her holidays so I think about that.

I know my t has her sister and her family down. I kinda felt sorry for my t because all of her children are away for Christmas and she has split up with her husband.
I know some of my clients, the teenage ones missed me today because they text.

I'm thinking about her today. Still doing some processing of my session Friday evening. More because of that, and less because it's a holiday.

[HD7970GHZ]

Yes!! I absolutely relate to this. It is all attachment related stuff. There is nothing wrong with this, it is definitely super important to look at it though as a means of self-exploration.

of course i miss her. I texted her Merry Christmas yesterday, and I know she will text me back once she gets a chance. I already know what she is doing for christmas and who she was with. i texted her some pictures of things i received for gifts, she likes that kind of thing.

[SilentMelodee]

Originally Posted by monalisasmile

I know my t has her sister and her family down. I kinda felt sorry for my t because all of her children are away for Christmas and she has split up with her husband.
I know some of my clients, the teenage ones missed me today because they text.

I wish my T would let me text or Email....that doesn't bother you?

[LonesomeTonight]

Yes...I've sent some Merry Christmas/Happy Holidays messages in years past. But not this year, since MC is on vacation right now--think he's out of town, so I don't want to bother him (plus his whole recent request for me to limit outside contact...) Though I am thinking of him because his wife passed away between Christmas and New Year's last year, so I hope he and his kids are doing OK... And I wished T a good Christmas in person after our session last week (plus not sure if he even celebrates), so don't feel much of a need to do so now (and I see him Wed., so can wish him Happy New Year then).

I've thought about my T a lot today. It's driven me to distraction actually. Still managed to enjoy the day but I'm getting a little p***ed off with the intensity of my transference at the moment.

[IttyBit]

What and who is a T?

[SalingerEsme]

Therapist is a "T"

Originally Posted by SilentMelodee

I wish my T would let me text or Email....that doesn't bother you?

Well we hadn’t discussed it in our last session whether she would text or not. I kind of thought that she might. It didn’t bother me and it was nice to hear from her because I know she was struggling.
Did you ever discuss it with your t, the possibility of text or email?

[guilloche]

Not so much with current T, because I'm not really that attached. Although, I do feel like... it's unfortunate that she's not working at all this week. I'm on my own for Christmas day, and kind of stressing because I made plans to meet up with my family a couple days from now (and now I don't want to, because we may end up having an ice storm the day I'm supposed to drive back... plus... just general stress and unhappiness around the whole thing.)

[Amyjay]

I did think wonder about my t a little bit, but only because I was doing something on Christmas day that is part of my work in therapy (trying to observe my interactions with abusers instead of dissociating them). So my therapy work was on my mind. I did wonder about Ts day and if she celebrates Christmas and if so how. But it was brief wondering, just like a passing thought.

[DP_2017]

Of course I do, I texted mine, a xmas message and thankfully he replied but I knew he would, we have a weird text thing going

I did not think about her till I saw this thread.

I got an email from T on Xmas eve. But seeing this thread just now, I realised that this is the 1st yr that I haven't thought about her.

[confused_77]

Originally Posted by SilentMelodee

Does anyone else think of their Ts on holidays? Like where they are, what they're doing, what their traditions are? Yes, I know some of you will think the thought of this is appalling, but I'm just curious for those who do. I miss my T on holidays.

I do, all the time. I think because they are so composed and 'perfect' as therapist I tent to imagine her Xmas to be udyllic and what I always wish Xmas my was like: peaceful, full of love and warmth and not rushed.

[rainbow8]

My T probably drove to be with her bf or her family. I'm not thinking about her much, just hoping she drives safely. I see her a week from tomorrow.

[wheeler]

Yes I have been wondering about my T. I know she’s home, which makes me feel ‘safer’ knowing she’s around. But I still wish I could be a ‘fly on the wall’ to really experience what her real life is like.

[Tbhimscared]

Originally Posted by SilentMelodee

Does anyone else think of their Ts on holidays? Like where they are, what they're doing, what their traditions are? Yes, I know some of you will think the thought of this is appalling, but I'm just curious for those who do. I miss my T on holidays.

I think about most professionals in my life and what they're doing over the holidays. I think about current T, past T's and various doctors and other health care workers. I picture them with their families or significant others or maybe they're on their own, maybe they're on vacation, maybe they're visiting their parents. Maybe they're thinking about their patients and how they're doing. Most of my care providers are young so I like to think that I would stand out more to them than if they had been working for years and years, and that maybe they're wondering how I am doing too. But this likely isn't the case, and I wouldn't want them to spend their holiday break thinking about what I'm doing.