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#1
Jan 08, 2018, 05:18 AM
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Do you feel like there is an invisible thread connecting you to your T?
And if that thread was tangible.... what would it look like? |
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#2
Jan 08, 2018, 07:15 AM
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Yes, I do. It is a golden thread. It is thinner than it used to be.
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#3
Jan 08, 2018, 07:18 AM
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The Red Thread of Fate
 The Red Thread of Fate (simplified Chinese: 姻缘红线; traditional Chinese: 姻緣紅線; pinyin: Yīnyuán hóngxiàn)... is an East Asian belief originating from Chinese legend. According to this myth, the gods tie an invisible red cord around the ankles of those that are destined to meet one another in a certain situation or help each other in a certain way. |
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#4
Jan 08, 2018, 08:13 AM
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No but with my schizophrenia I thought I could talk to her telepathically
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#5
Jan 08, 2018, 08:15 AM
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Nope. I have a connection and strong feelings for my T. I think about her often and have many different feelings for her when we are not together. I don't at anytime feel like she is reaching to me, or tugging on a string, as in the children's book. I don't have that feeling from anyone. Though I know out of sight does not mean out of mind - I don't feel loved (or whatever the feeling is) when there is no direct interaction with T either in person, on the phone, or through email. It is in the interactions that I feel connected. There's no permanence for me yet on this topic/concept.
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#6
Jan 08, 2018, 08:27 AM
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Yes and sometimes I envision taking a giant pair of scissors and cutting it
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| alpacalicious, Elio, pepper_mint
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#7
Jan 08, 2018, 08:38 AM
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Yes with my previous T there was a thread. I don't know if we are still connected or not, sometimes I want to see him again, other times I don't. It's really difficult to live like this.
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At every moment of our lives, we all have one foot in a fairy tale and the other in the abyss.
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#8
Jan 08, 2018, 08:47 AM
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When I was completely crazy
 I thought I could telepathically send him what I needed from him at that moment like emailing me or calling me or what I wanted him to do in session. I am so embarrassed now when I think of that. I also thought by me posting what I wanted from him on this forum that he would read it and now how to proceed.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors. |
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#9
Jan 08, 2018, 09:38 AM
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No. I am not certain I even understand the idea of this.
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#10
Jan 08, 2018, 11:23 AM
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I'm with SD on this one.
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Jan 08, 2018, 11:50 AM
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#12
Jan 08, 2018, 12:14 PM
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wait a moment, I need.to cut the string before you go or... hey, would you mind handing your end of the string to the next patient thats waiting for me.... thanks! |
| Elio, kecanoe, mostlylurking, RaineD
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#13
Jan 08, 2018, 12:24 PM
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It's an interesting thought. I'm sure Freud would point out it sounds almost umbilical.
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| ElectricManatee, Elio, junkDNA, mostlylurking, rainbow8, RaineD, unaluna
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#14
Jan 08, 2018, 12:30 PM
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I don't know about a string or thread, but when things are going well and I feel more or less securely attached to him, I feel the connection in between sessions.
I'm not always able to do that though. There are times when I feel disconnected even when I'm in his office. And then I wonder what am I even doing here? |
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| Elio
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#15
Jan 08, 2018, 12:30 PM
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Detached in space |
| Elio
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#16
Jan 08, 2018, 01:27 PM
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no, and i thought this thread would be about feeling invisible
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| Argonautomobile, ElectricManatee, Elio, RaineD
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#17
Jan 08, 2018, 03:11 PM
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oh that reminds me of that song....
Im sitting down here kinda invisible... |
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#18
Jan 08, 2018, 04:08 PM
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It's not the right metaphor for me; I think of it more like there's an invisible cloud of safety and comfort all around him and if you're in proximity you can feel it. Outside of session I just remember that feeling.
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| alpacalicious
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#19
Jan 08, 2018, 04:27 PM
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No. There was only one person in my life I felt that way about (mutually) and nothing productive came of it except obsessions and living in a fantasy land. I am also just not wired psychologically for feeling mysterious, "psychic" connections with others, except when I was very young or later mentally very unhealthy with bizarre, eccentric imaginations... so definitely not something I would want to have now. I did have a good connection with my last T, but it was simply coming from similarities in personality traits, interests, and some life experiences.
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#20
Jan 08, 2018, 04:33 PM
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No and honestly if I felt this way it would really creep me out. I pay for her advice. I don't want a connection.
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| alpacalicious
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#21
Jan 09, 2018, 02:10 AM
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I took it to mean the string in the book: The Invisible String https://www.amazon.com/Invisible-Str.../dp/0875167349 |
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Jan 09, 2018, 02:30 AM
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I sent the counselor a nice thank you note over the holidays suggesting that I was "done" and the card was kind of a closure. I cancelled the phone meet scheduled for the new year. If there was a thread she was making it more solid than I was and all along it felt creepy. She was promoting a dependency I never wanted. I will never enter into another therapy relationship. Don't like the strings...the attachment...the dependency. I just want a professional who will offer some good coping skills...but I never get that...and always find my own in books and online. This string weaver had too high an opinion of herself...she wasn't much help and was irritating a lot of the time. This is always how I relate to counselors...then I cut the cord. Stupid dance.
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