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Old Jan 18, 2018, 06:43 AM
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She's less than 10 years older than me but I'm not 100% sure of her age. I went with someone who was an expect in a particular therapy. I literally knew nothing about her going in although, I probably would have a harder time connecting if she were significantly older than me.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 06:58 AM
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I am guessing late 50s on his way to 60. I googled him once, but he is absolutely NOWHERE on the internet, even from where I go see him at the Counseling Center.

It's a bit odd, but I am not worried. I don't really need to know his age, we relate to each other just fine.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 07:08 AM
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My T is 40 and I am 30
We are 10 years and one month apart in age

I met him when I was 23 and he was 33
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 07:43 AM
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I googled but then I asked because I felt creepy knowing secretly --he willingly told me

43. I'm nearly 36
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 08:09 AM
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My t is 67, I'm 55
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 08:34 AM
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How do you guys know their exact age? Do you just ask?
MC is 52 (or 53?) and T is 47 (possibly 48?)--I'm 40 (almost 41). As for how we found out, we just asked MC at one point (though graduation year of his undergrad diploma on wall gave us a clue). When I started seeing current T, he mentioned that he was 5 years younger than MC (they used to work together), so I figured that out.

And with ex-T, when I first started seeing her, she said she had kids my age, so I figured she was around my mother's age. Right near the end of when I was seeing her, I made some comment about what I thought her age was--I actually guessed lower. She's "very early 70s" (so I assume 70 or 71), which is a couple years older than my mom.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 09:43 AM
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My t is 69 or 70. She's 16 years older than me.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 10:24 AM
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Blondie's 45-46 (googling her brings up a traffic citation, complete with birth date and address) and ~8 years older.

I don't think she'd be any different even if she was much older.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 10:30 AM
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exT was 8 years older than me and is currently 38.

current T is my dad's age - 57
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 10:46 AM
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47 plus or minus a year, she is about 7 years younger than I am.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 10:58 AM
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My t is 60, 10 years older than me. When I told her I was freaking out about turning 50, she laughed and say, ah that's still young.

I have always had a therapist who was older than me, for their experience, yet, alas, that will not always be possible. I figure that after she retires, my next one will be younger, but hopefully still wise.

Possibly related - I struggle with the idea of being in t forever, yet for some of us, the mental illness needs long term maintenance.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 11:27 AM
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How do you guys know their exact age? Do you just ask?


My t told me her age.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 12:02 PM
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My t is in his mid 40s so he is probably about 12ish years older than me.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 12:29 PM
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My T is 60 (will be 61 this year) and I’m 24 (will be 25 this year).
I don’t like thinking about T’s age much.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 12:34 PM
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My T is 67, which is my age. Glad he's 'older' as I know he has experience and since he's still in private practice, it's likely his boundaries are solid.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 01:09 PM
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My T is 24 years older than me. Im 36.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 01:15 PM
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My T is around 37 years old, about 2 years older than me.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 03:33 PM
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My therapist is 36 but seriously she doesn't act like it.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 03:41 PM
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How do you guys know their exact age? Do you just ask?
He mention it when he was talking about something else. I don't know know his birthday or a month though.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 04:06 PM
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My T is 40 and i am 19"and we get along very good because he is easy going and never get mad at me even when late, drunk or high tripping
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 04:32 PM
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My T is 66. I am 58.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 04:35 PM
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My T is somewhere in her mid thirties, about 10 years younger than me.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 08:56 PM
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My t is 10 years younger than I am. At first I thought that was going to be a problem but its not a big deal. I respect her and that is the main thing I look for in a t.
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Old Jan 18, 2018, 11:22 PM
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My T is 40 and I am 30
We are 10 years and one month apart in age

I met him when I was 23 and he was 33
We're 10 years 2 months apart, and I met him when I was 23 and he was 33, haha
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Old Jan 19, 2018, 12:33 AM
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My T is 35 only five years older than me!
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