Do you tell the therapist your deepest and or darkest secrets?

Do you tell the therapist your deepest and or darkest secrets? Is that part of therapy for you?
I did not. I told the woman things I did not tell others but not anything that would be considered a secret. I told the woman more of what would be considered not polite or nice or pointlessly politically correct. Also I told the woman stuff that I did not want to have to endure people I like trying to be nice or comforting to me about but they would miss the boat and I would have to be nice about it because I like them and they are my friends.

Well, they are sort of central to why I am seeking therapy, so it's necessary to share them.

I dance around the abyss but I think he gets the general idea of my issues.

I think for alot of clients... their T is their deepest darkest secret if you take a look at all the various attachment issues.

No, there is no need to unless it's related to my issues which it isn't

Mostly. It's all part of who I am and how I became this person so it's pertinent to why I'm there. There are a few things that have not come out yet though that I expect to discuss with her at some point.

I did both years ago and it has been very freeing. Besides the not so perfect family secrets, one of them, done decades ago was a prank* done on an ex therapist. I was so ashamed to get the words out. When I told my therapist the misdeed she laughed her butt off. I went over a decade feeling shame for what I did, now I just grin like a Cheshire Cat.

*I confess. It was not done as a prank. It was me wanting to do payback. She terminated me because I refused to have my parents sign a no lawsuit suicide waiver.

interesting! i really had to think about the difference between "deepest" and "darkest" secret. I chose "darkest" (sui thoughts/plans), but not "deepest," (older ones/ones i don't plan on telling anyone)

Yes darkest but not deepest. I feel guilty about some dark things which I've shared with her, but there are some other deeper things I wouldn't want to tell her, at least not until I know her better.

I put other as in "not yet." I might and probably should, but it's still a new relationship and I'm not ready yet.

slowly (very slowly) but surely getting closer to the deepest darkest stuff. for me, it's the detail (re abuse). i've given a loose and disjointed overview, and written little one-sentence notes with some of the detail. now the work lies in talking about the detail out loud, putting names to those deep and dark things, making connections, joining the dots.

It took a while, but eventually my therapist knew everything. Even down to the sex stuff. He has been the only therapist I ever had, and I have known him over 10 years, so trust was built over time.

My secrets have either turned gray or fallen out.

I told both of my Ts lots about what I consider my darkest secrets - my self-destructive behaviors, addiction and what came with it especially. I did not find it all that useful though, much more helpful for me to discuss these with peers that experienced similar things and resolved them. Deepest for me are things that I still feel most insecure and/or ashamed about, and I did discuss some of that as well but far from all or even closely comprehensive. Those are things I much prefer to talk about with friends.

The ones that are relevant to the work, yes. Not just gratuitously for the sake of it.

I don't feel I have any. He knows pretty much everything, but I can't talk about sex. It just makes me feel dirty.

Yes, that is why I am in therapy; to deal with my childhood issies that I have kept from the rest of the world.

I don't really have secrets, but some things I just want to keep to myself.

I told my ex t some of my deepest and darkest secrets. That backfired because she wound up using those secrets to torture me with. So I will never do that again.

Yes, I have told him some, but not all of my darkest and deepest. I figure if it's something I wouldn't share with a friend, it's something I'm ashamed about and I probably need to throw it on the table and work on it somehow. I usually have a bit of a freak out after I've shared certain things and am very worried he'll think less of me, but so far he's made me feel like he still likes me and still cares about me.

I don't really think of my abusive past as deep or dark secrets, or secrets at all. It was a secret when I was a child, but not when I became an adult and started dealing with it, bits and pieces at a time. I tried to tell the college counselor I saw for a short time, but she didn't get it. About 7 years later, I did about 5 years of therapy with 2 T's and thought I was done. 15 years later, issues kicked up in a new way when I had a child that was the same age I was when I was abused. It's now 8 years later, and I'm no longer dealing with past trauma except tangentially. Now I'm on a wholistic wellness kick and grief recovery and personal growth mission as I change jobs to be able to engage in a creative project I've long wanted to do.

It has done me much good to talk about my past, to bring these things into the safe space of therapy and discuss how they have shaped myself and my life. Not all of this discussion has been about how bad it was, as even in my abusive family, there was good parenting and positivity from my childhood. And not all the shaping that was done by what happened to me has been negative in terms of who I am and how I work with victims now and how I otherwise live my life.

Yes, i do. They are the reason I am in therapy in the first place.

Yes.

And it's really true that we are only as sick as our secrets.