[sinking]

Today my ex T came to the clinic to see me. I didnt call her, she did it. I was glad about it but it also didnt feel right because i had ended with her a month ago. Problem is. Shes so kind and i feel soo filled of guilt knowing what I'll do to her (and anybodyelse i know).

Why is she torturing herself, what does she get from.it?
I know she cares but i think she should keep the distances.

Coleagues are nicer than i expected, ill stay at the clinic bout another week, probably less..

I AM SORRY FOR T, FOR HURTING HER KNOWINGLY... and she knows that

Old T inststea looked to cold and uncaring, dont know why.... i feel all.alone with my.plans..

[mostlylurking]

Have you thought about asking your ex T just that-- what does she get from her relationship with you? And have you thought about sharing your plans with her, to see her reaction?

[stopdog]

Therapists actively chose to become therapists for a living. If they do suffer (and I doubt they do as general rule) it is their problem - not that of a client. A major premise is that the client need not take care of or worry about a therapist - they hold themselves out as able to take care of themselves and I see no reason for a client not to take that at face value.
I would not tell one of those guys more than I was willing risk unless I was looking for interference. But I tend to approach therapists with caution and circumspection.