[Crook32]

I am not saying that my T has abandoned me. Or if the feeling even relates to therapy. I have been trying to pinpoint the source ever since I mentioned in therapy today. It could be multiple sources. I think some of it has to do with family. Also maybe therapy because I had been doing better so I have had less contact with my T.

How do you handle this sudden lessening of contact with your T without feeling like you did something wrong?

[DP_2017]

I'm not lol. I'm losing my mind over it. Wish i had better info

[ScarletPimpernel]

I get lots of reassurance from my T when I do communicate with her. And she has proven that even with tapering down sessions, if I need her, she's there.

[SalingerEsme]

I keep stubbing my toe on boundaries or tripping over them and falling on my face I try so hard to observe each and every one. I want to lessen contact , because contact is a source of pain and also the soothing of pain. It is very troubling and conflicting when T's themselves lessen contact bc it feels like a rejection while they are saying it is not? I have not been there yet, but where I am stinks. It is all about how real our feelings are compared Toit being their job I think.

[katydid777]

I feel abandoned by my T. She could have at least told me she was leaving. Instead I found out a couple days before my last apt, on the phone. I was trying to change the date of my apt, and was told that the last 3rd of Jan my T would no longer be there. Still at this time, I don't have a T. How can you learn to trust a new T if you aren't given one???????

[Crook32]

I don’t think I will ever get another email from my T at this point. She just won’t answer mine anymore. I guess she is going to force me to be more self reliant kicking and screaming.

[maybeblue]

I find the email thing incredibly stressful...waiting and hoping for a response, but not knowing when or if one is going to come. Logically I know that if the therapist doesn't respond it probably isn't about me, but it never feels that way. So I just almost never email.

I got down to about once every six weeks with my long term therapist. I was doing well and I just didn't have that much to talk about. But I always knew that I could ask her for an extra session and she'd give me one. That helped, even though I didn't use it much. I just felt ready to cut down. It would have been harder if I hadn't felt ready.

The only thing I can suggest is that you tell her how you are feeling about less contact. Maybe just having her reassure you that it isn't because you did something wrong that she is reducing contact will help.

[DP_2017]

I hear you on the emails. I used to email 1x a week and getting a reply was the best thing ever.... but I struggled sometimes and sent more than 1 and would panic that I was too much or I said stuff I regretted after I sent and the unknown of his thoughts on it would drive me insane, then he began casually not replying anymore...once in a while but not always and it was too much, i took it personally and vowed to never email again. I just can't take the anguish of it... now it seems he may be doing the same with texts and I'm spiraling