[SarahSweden]

I´ve seen both my therapist and a psychiatric nurse for some months now and suddenly my nurse told me she had gotten a job somewhere else and that we needed to end our contact.

It all happened very fast, she told me a couple of weeks ago and then, just two days ago she said we didn´t have any more meetings. She had scheduled one more session with me but it was cancelled and now I´m in a deep sorrow and sadness.

My T has known about the nurse all the time I´ve been seeing her but I don´t know if I should tell my T about my sorrow and sadness or just ask her for some time off, some weeks or so.

I feel there´s a risk that my therapist has in a way disapproved of me seeing a psychiatric nurse (they´re not within the same facility) at the same time as I´ve seen her and also that she might think I don´t appreciate her that much as I now feel this grief over my nurse.

The nurse and I never did therapy but still. What to do about this?

There's nothing wrong with telling your T about your sorrow and loss! Your T is there to help you cope with life stressors, and it certainly sounds like your psych nurse's departure is a big life stressor right now.

If you're worried about whether or not your therapist disapproves of you seeing a psychiatric nurse, you can always ask for her opinion. This way you're not tormented with anxiety over what she thinks.

I can't say if her opinion will hurt you or not, but I think asking her will give you some closure. And if you are hurt by her opinion, you can still talk to her about why and how she hurt you. A good therapist is able to take criticism. And maybe she can give you some good advice going forward. Alternatively, if she isn't doing you any favors, you can always find a new therapist. You need a therapist who will support you, not hurt you.

You should definitely tell your T. It is what she is there for and she should be understanding on how this effects you. Best of luck!

[nottrustin]

Definitely tell her. If you are seeing psych nurse for medication it is huge. If you T is bothered by the fact that you see another professional that is her problem.

I had a Pcp and psych nurse that I lost. I had a very close relationship with Pcp and devastated that I could no longer work with her. T helped me work through the grief. With psych nurse it was hard because finding somebody who would work with my issues with taking meds regularly would be hard. Then I found out I could follow her but it would entail sacrifices. T was a huge help in figuring out what to do.

[here today]

Originally Posted by SarahSweden

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I feel there´s a risk that my therapist has in a way disapproved of me seeing a psychiatric nurse (they´re not within the same facility) at the same time as I´ve seen her and also that she might think I don´t appreciate her that much as I now feel this grief over my nurse. . .

Do you feel like you could find a way to talk to your T, to tell her how much you appreciate her, and that you worry sometimes that she disapproved of you seeing the psy. nurse? That might open the door to discussing these feelings in a way that might not feel threatening, to you or to her?

If she DID disapprove of you seeing the psy. nurse somewhat, does that have to mean to you that she disapproves of you, personally? I don't think it has to -- it may just be that she has different ideas about therapy, etc., etc. While still leaving it up to you to decide things.

Just a thought.

[Taylor27]

Yes i would tell her about your sorrow and loss. I don't understand why she disapproves you seeing a psych nurse, she should be happy you are seeing a psych nurse for meds. Also i would talk to her too how it bothers you that she disapproves. Maybe she feels seeing two people might not be in your best interest. She may not understand that psych nurses don't do pyschotherapy, she might think you are getting therapy from her Hugs

[SarahSweden]

Thanks. Yes, I hope my therapist can handle this if I tell her. As I didn´t see the nurse for medicines but for counselling, even if she wasn´t a therapist, I think it´s a bit delicate as my therapist might see this as dual processes.

Originally Posted by bluebicycle

There's nothing wrong with telling your T about your sorrow and loss! Your T is there to help you cope with life stressors, and it certainly sounds like your psych nurse's departure is a big life stressor right now.

If you're worried about whether or not your therapist disapproves of you seeing a psychiatric nurse, you can always ask for her opinion. This way you're not tormented with anxiety over what she thinks.

I can't say if her opinion will hurt you or not, but I think asking her will give you some closure. And if you are hurt by her opinion, you can still talk to her about why and how she hurt you. A good therapist is able to take criticism. And maybe she can give you some good advice going forward. Alternatively, if she isn't doing you any favors, you can always find a new therapist. You need a therapist who will support you, not hurt you.

[SarahSweden]

Thanks. As my therapist is within church and I don´t pay her anything for therapy this becomes a more sensitive issue as church is for those in difficult situations in life. I am but as I´m also within health care my therapist might think that I´m able to get support anyway. (Which I'm not as the nurse was the best solution as my facility lack psychotherapists. )

Originally Posted by nottrustin

Definitely tell her. If you are seeing psych nurse for medication it is huge. If you T is bothered by the fact that you see another professional that is her problem.

I had a Pcp and psych nurse that I lost. I had a very close relationship with Pcp and devastated that I could no longer work with her. T helped me work through the grief. With psych nurse it was hard because finding somebody who would work with my issues with taking meds regularly would be hard. Then I found out I could follow her but it would entail sacrifices. T was a huge help in figuring out what to do.

[JacksonLiam]

Should you tell an old T that you fell in love with your old T and after almost eight years you can't get them out of your mind?

[SarahSweden]

Thanks. Yes, I´m thinking of e-mailing her before session and explain to her what has happened and how I feel about the whole thing. She doesn´t generally do e-mails between sessions but she hasn´t forbidden me to send me one neither.

I don´t think she would disapprove of me as a person, more that she thinks that the church´s resources should be spent on the most vulnerable people in society. She might think that health care will solve the issue around me missing my nurse but there are no real solutions as the facility I´m in doesn´t offer psychotherapy and that kind of support.

Originally Posted by here today

Do you feel like you could find a way to talk to your T, to tell her how much you appreciate her, and that you worry sometimes that she disapproved of you seeing the psy. nurse? That might open the door to discussing these feelings in a way that might not feel threatening, to you or to her?

If she DID disapprove of you seeing the psy. nurse somewhat, does that have to mean to you that she disapproves of you, personally? I don't think it has to -- it may just be that she has different ideas about therapy, etc., etc. While still leaving it up to you to decide things.

Just a thought.

[SarahSweden]

Thanks. The thing is that I didn´t see the nurse for meds but for counselling even if she wasn´t a therapist. It might be as you say that my T doesn´t like me seeing two people at the same time but she has never mentioned anything like that. It´s more of a feeling I have, perhaps she has asked a question about it that made me wonder what she really thinks about me also seeing a nurse.

Now I don´t see the nurse anymore but it's a question about how I felt close to the nurse and perhaps not so close, or close in another way to my therapist. It scares me as my T has the power to just end things, I´ve experienced this before and even if a T says in the beginning a client can talk about anything, several exceptions can show during the way.

Hugs back.

Originally Posted by Cheryl27

Yes i would tell her about your sorrow and loss. I don't understand why she disapproves you seeing a psych nurse, she should be happy you are seeing a psych nurse for meds. Also i would talk to her too how it bothers you that she disapproves. Maybe she feels seeing two people might not be in your best interest. She may not understand that psych nurses don't do pyschotherapy, she might think you are getting therapy from her Hugs